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Kee Kee

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Oct 27, 2009
 
Am I the only one who has regrets about lost loves and missed opportunities? What is your biggest regret? I'll tell you mine....
I Regret

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Oct 27, 2009
 
Letting myself care to much for someone.Thinking they might start caring for me.Even after promising to do anything in this world for them.And never to do them wrong.Just wasn't enough.You can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try.Even though you do,don't mean they will.When you care so much for someone that it makes you cry and lose countless nights of sleep.And you keep holding on thinking they will put there arms around you and say i care so much for you that i am willing to do whatever it takes to hold on to you.Cause when someone cares for you inside there heart they could never do you wrong.Instead of saying i think the world of you.It is so hard to find someone to really care in there heart for you. Now they say your not welcome here anymore and want even speak to you no more.It hurts so bad that all you can do is pick up the pieces and try to move on.
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Oct 27, 2009
 
when it is over between two people you just need to move on with your life as soon as you can,let the other one go and have a life of there own also,no matter how bad it hurts.there is someone out there for everybody..so move on and get over it
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Oct 27, 2009
 
thinking that I was so deeply in love with someone and makeing a total fool out of myself only to realize it was merely puppy love
SwanSong

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Oct 31, 2009
 
I Regret wrote:
Letting myself care to much for someone.Thinking they might start caring for me.Even after promising to do anything in this world for them.And never to do them wrong.Just wasn't enough.You can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try.Even though you do,don't mean they will.When you care so much for someone that it makes you cry and lose countless nights of sleep.And you keep holding on thinking they will put there arms around you and say i care so much for you that i am willing to do whatever it takes to hold on to you.Cause when someone cares for you inside there heart they could never do you wrong.Instead of saying i think the world of you.It is so hard to find someone to really care in there heart for you. Now they say your not welcome here anymore and want even speak to you no more.It hurts so bad that all you can do is pick up the pieces and try to move on.
Been there. I invested my whole life in someone only to be left hurt and alone. If I had it to do over, I would have fought harder and said all the things I held back in the interest of being the better person and doing the right thing. Being the good person sometimes doesn't get you anywhere. They say if you love someone you should let them go...I let her go and I've been alone for many years now. Lovin' ain't easy.
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Oct 31, 2009
 
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Been there. I invested my whole life in someone only to be left hurt and alone. If I had it to do over, I would have fought harder and said all the things I held back in the interest of being the better person and doing the right thing. Being the good person sometimes doesn't get you anywhere. They say if you love someone you should let them go...I let her go and I've been alone for many years now. Lovin' ain't easy.
I hate hearing things like this. I fell in love with someone and was ready to take the next step in being with this person forever, and they decided they wanted different. Yes, I can see how I'd be better off if she didn't feel the same way, but I'm not convinced. I still believe and have hope for her and I.
I'm being patient and showing the true love I do have for her, even though she may not know it. I just hope there is another chance for us...
IMY & ILY
SwanSong

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Oct 31, 2009
 
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I hate hearing things like this. I fell in love with someone and was ready to take the next step in being with this person forever, and they decided they wanted different. Yes, I can see how I'd be better off if she didn't feel the same way, but I'm not convinced. I still believe and have hope for her and I.
I'm being patient and showing the true love I do have for her, even though she may not know it. I just hope there is another chance for us...
IMY & ILY
I understand where you're coming from. I think I could have made my peace a long time ago if I had ever heard the words "I don't love you" or "I don't want to be with you." It was life and some bad circumstances that fell between us and I know in my heart that she still loves me. I've tried to make my peace with it and my regret list is pretty small now, but there are still things I'd do different and (if it ever comes around again) will do. I think when you really and truly love someone you are drawn to them. And when you know things relating to love - you just know. Without reason or explanation. Love is a powerful thing...and if you believe it's going to come back around for you, then hold onto that. You might just be right.
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Nov 1, 2009
 
I don't want to discourage anyone, but I have been waiting for 3 years for the love of my life to come home and it hasn't happened, and It isn't going too. I have tried other options, but no one can ever get into my heart the way this one did. I think about it every morning and every night and in between. It doesn't control every aspect of my life anymore, but it still has a major impact. How do you go on? Or do you keep on grieving until the end of time?
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Nov 1, 2009
 
Heartbroken wrote:
I don't want to discourage anyone, but I have been waiting for 3 years for the love of my life to come home and it hasn't happened, and It isn't going too. I have tried other options, but no one can ever get into my heart the way this one did. I think about it every morning and every night and in between. It doesn't control every aspect of my life anymore, but it still has a major impact. How do you go on? Or do you keep on grieving until the end of time?
I've been waiting for about 5 years. When you feel that strongly about someone, I don't think it's possible to substitute someone else - at least not for long. I've dated several people but it never goes anywhere. It's not that I don't want to move on, but it's as though I'm stuck with those feelings and emotions and I've been searching for someone else that made me feel the way that she did...but at the same time, I don't think anyone will ever make me feel the way she did. So here I am. Does that sound familiar?

I used to let it control me. I would lie awake at night trying to fight it all back, or I'd have one of those few and far between sightings around town and spend the rest of the day feeling like somebody punched me in the stomach. You can't let it control you, no. It's hard NOT to grieve - I have often said I grieved for her for those first few years as though she HAD died. That's not good or healthy. I think about her every day but after a long break, I started living my life again. I am ever hopeful, but I can't waste any more time sitting around feeling sorry for myself. If it's meant to be...and I believe it is, I'll be here. I just can't make it an issue like I used to. None of my friends or family even know that it matters to me - so I guess I do a pretty good job. It's hard in a situation like that, but if at all possible then be happy. Live your life. There are so many other things out there to find happiness in - though it might not be just what you need, sometimes that's just enough to carry you through.
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Nov 1, 2009
 
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I've been waiting for about 5 years. When you feel that strongly about someone, I don't think it's possible to substitute someone else - at least not for long. I've dated several people but it never goes anywhere. It's not that I don't want to move on, but it's as though I'm stuck with those feelings and emotions and I've been searching for someone else that made me feel the way that she did...but at the same time, I don't think anyone will ever make me feel the way she did. So here I am. Does that sound familiar?
I used to let it control me. I would lie awake at night trying to fight it all back, or I'd have one of those few and far between sightings around town and spend the rest of the day feeling like somebody punched me in the stomach. You can't let it control you, no. It's hard NOT to grieve - I have often said I grieved for her for those first few years as though she HAD died. That's not good or healthy. I think about her every day but after a long break, I started living my life again. I am ever hopeful, but I can't waste any more time sitting around feeling sorry for myself. If it's meant to be...and I believe it is, I'll be here. I just can't make it an issue like I used to. None of my friends or family even know that it matters to me - so I guess I do a pretty good job. It's hard in a situation like that, but if at all possible then be happy. Live your life. There are so many other things out there to find happiness in - though it might not be just what you need, sometimes that's just enough to carry you through.
Nearly everything you have said in every post feels like me, except for the time.

Mine has only been 7 months. But I can easily see it being 5 years and me still feeling the same. I, like you, hope and believe that it is meant to be. I don't think I'll ever not love her and want for her, but at the same time I'm not sure I can ever want anyone else.

I also feel and was told it was a lot to do with circumstances rather than not loving me. That's a tough pill for me to swallow because I was and always will be more than willing to work on those circumstances.

I like the Blake Shelton song Austin... "What kind of man would hang on that long. What kind of love that must be." This is me. And I'm assuming it's you too SwanSong. I hope things work out for you soon and you are back in their arms away from all harm.
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Nov 1, 2009
 
I don't see hope or hold on to any. I did for a while, then I realized that life was still going on all around me, without me. I hold to the things in my heart, my good memories and remember the words said, like "I love you honey, I could never see me living my life without you in it", or "this will always be our home" or "I've never had as good a life as I have with you". It's funny how things change in the blink of an eye. One day you go from being the happiest woman in the world, having everything you could ever imagine to the next day, your whole world has been jerked out from under you. It is hard, so hard to deal with. No mattr who you meet, no matter how good a person they are, you just can't open your heart up to them simply because it still belongs to someone else. Someone who chose to leave you for someone they know is not half the person you will ever be. If people could just realize when someone truly loves you, they wouldn't leave you so fast. I would have walked through fire for mine. I guess we just have to go on and try to make it until the Lord decides we have had enough. Love doesn't hurt, losing the one you love does, loneliness does.
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Nov 1, 2009
 

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Nov 1, 2009
 
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Been there. I invested my whole life in someone only to be left hurt and alone. If I had it to do over, I would have fought harder and said all the things I held back in the interest of being the better person and doing the right thing. Being the good person sometimes doesn't get you anywhere. They say if you love someone you should let them go...I let her go and I've been alone for many years now. Lovin' ain't easy.
There was a Statler bros. song years ago that said there will always be that one, one will always linger, one will ring your finger, but there will always be that one.

I'm happily married now, but there will always be that one that every time you see her you'll always remember her,we still see each other now and again, we talk but it doesn't go any further.

She's married and I'm married to a woman I truly love, but there will always be that one!
mee

Grundy, VA

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Nov 1, 2009
 
i regret trusting some people that turned out to be a bad influence.
and taking the first prescribed narcotic pain pill that made me get addicted, so far im in sobriety for 3 months.
SwanSong

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Nov 1, 2009
 
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Nearly everything you have said in every post feels like me, except for the time.
Mine has only been 7 months. But I can easily see it being 5 years and me still feeling the same. I, like you, hope and believe that it is meant to be. I don't think I'll ever not love her and want for her, but at the same time I'm not sure I can ever want anyone else.
I also feel and was told it was a lot to do with circumstances rather than not loving me. That's a tough pill for me to swallow because I was and always will be more than willing to work on those circumstances.
I like the Blake Shelton song Austin... "What kind of man would hang on that long. What kind of love that must be." This is me. And I'm assuming it's you too SwanSong. I hope things work out for you soon and you are back in their arms away from all harm.
It's funny that you mention that Blake Shelton song; I've always likened my situation to those words too! A great love or a great fool would hold on for that long. lol She wasn't my first love so I can't reason it out that I'll always have something for her because of that. It wasn't perfect, but for better or worse it was the strongest love I have ever known. I have always felt so connected to her in a way that I haven't with anyone else.

She's landed herself in a pretty rough situation and I hear all the time about how unhappy she is, but she just doesn't seem to know how to find her way out. I try not to put too much thought into it because every time I hear anything like that, my heart leaps a little at the notion we might be one day closer to being reunited. You can't help but feeling that way, you know? There were alot of things that went along with her that I had to be accepting of but because of the love that I felt for her, I was always and continue to be willing to find a way through it with her.

I appreciate the kind words; I pray for guidance and patience - I can do nothing more. I hope everything works out for you too...every day is a battle, the only way to win is to keep fighting!
mbccnd

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Nov 1, 2009
 
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It's funny that you mention that Blake Shelton song; I've always likened my situation to those words too! A great love or a great fool would hold on for that long. lol She wasn't my first love so I can't reason it out that I'll always have something for her because of that. It wasn't perfect, but for better or worse it was the strongest love I have ever known. I have always felt so connected to her in a way that I haven't with anyone else.
She's landed herself in a pretty rough situation and I hear all the time about how unhappy she is, but she just doesn't seem to know how to find her way out. I try not to put too much thought into it because every time I hear anything like that, my heart leaps a little at the notion we might be one day closer to being reunited. You can't help but feeling that way, you know? There were alot of things that went along with her that I had to be accepting of but because of the love that I felt for her, I was always and continue to be willing to find a way through it with her.
I appreciate the kind words; I pray for guidance and patience - I can do nothing more. I hope everything works out for you too...every day is a battle, the only way to win is to keep fighting!
I thought I had loved in the past, but after meeting/dating/falling in love with her, I know I've only been in love once. She has my heart and I am in no state emotionally to be involved with anyone else right now, maybe ever. I fight every day. I'd walk through hell for her, and I'm doing it right now.
I feel so connected to her and always think I will.

I'm hoping she doesn't land in a rough situation, but I hope she also knows I'd be there if she ever needed a hand. Or a push.

When you hear these things, you don't think to make the first move? I think one day I'd have too if I kept hearing those things.

IMY & ILY puzzle piece
SwanSong

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Nov 2, 2009
 
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I thought I had loved in the past, but after meeting/dating/falling in love with her, I know I've only been in love once. She has my heart and I am in no state emotionally to be involved with anyone else right now, maybe ever. I fight every day. I'd walk through hell for her, and I'm doing it right now.
I feel so connected to her and always think I will.
I'm hoping she doesn't land in a rough situation, but I hope she also knows I'd be there if she ever needed a hand. Or a push.
When you hear these things, you don't think to make the first move? I think one day I'd have too if I kept hearing those things.
IMY & ILY puzzle piece
I wish it were that simple, but it's a little more complicated than that. She got married. To this guy who is really awful to her. It was a string of really bad circumstances, as I said. The last I heard, they were talking about separating but nothing has actually happened yet. Though I'd really like to, I can't in good conscience do anything. She knows I'm here. She knows I'm not with anybody and that I'm a phone call away if she needs me. I don't want to be a factor in a marriage falling apart...I hate to say it, but it's happening on its own. Call me a semi-decent person, but I just can't interfere that way. I just stand kind of quietly at the wayside watching and waiting to see how it unfolds. Somehow in all the craziness we have always found our way back to each other. I think we will again. I've got nothing but time. lol
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Nov 2, 2009
 
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I wish it were that simple, but it's a little more complicated than that. She got married. To this guy who is really awful to her. It was a string of really bad circumstances, as I said. The last I heard, they were talking about separating but nothing has actually happened yet. Though I'd really like to, I can't in good conscience do anything. She knows I'm here. She knows I'm not with anybody and that I'm a phone call away if she needs me. I don't want to be a factor in a marriage falling apart...I hate to say it, but it's happening on its own. Call me a semi-decent person, but I just can't interfere that way. I just stand kind of quietly at the wayside watching and waiting to see how it unfolds. Somehow in all the craziness we have always found our way back to each other. I think we will again. I've got nothing but time. lol
Makes sense. I can't fault you at all. I wouldn't interfere with a marriage either. Hopefully for both your sakes, she figures it out and has what it takes to make that call.

I believe she and I will find our way back to each other as well.
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Nov 2, 2009
 
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i buttf*cked a goat.
daddy is thaaaaaaaat yoooooooooou?lol
My Confession

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daddy is thaaaaaaaat yoooooooooou?lol
Dear Lord, Forgive Me.
I read this and I laughed.
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