Paddling has no place in our schools

searching wrote:

When spanking was allowed in schools there was no need for security personnel. Parents once supported the educators and their kids knew it. Parents once spanked their own children and expected their kids to respect and obey their teachers. I know that kids of today threaten to call DCS and report their parents for abuse over silly things. So be it then. Allow the kids to live in a foster home or facility if they THINK a spanking or having to take out the trash is abuse.

Former Tennessee Girl wrote:

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VOLSMAN, you are correct, I wasn't saying her child is a bad child, I am just saying that some kids no adays sure could use a good smack on the ass every now and then :)

ring-2 wrote:

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I wouldn't rush to judgment with those numbers too quickly. Most of the big cities and police departments in Tennessee use a very efficient incident based reporting system that tends to inflate those numbers in comparison to other cities. It's bad advice to flaunt those numbers without at least mentioning that you may be comparing apples to oranges; even the feds don't approve of those crime stats being used that way.
Essentially what it means is that some of those cities report each individual crime separately, and some do not. So for example, if a criminal in Memphis broke into a house, shot someone, stole his wallet and evaded arrest, EACH of those would be reported as a separate incident. Other places would just report it as one criminal incident.
That system really tends to hurt medium to large cities that have careful and efficient police department reporting procedures. When you use the numbers like you have to say "Such and such is the Nth most dangerous city in the country!" you're not helping.

Tana wrote:

If you feel like my child is disrespectful or you can judge how I discipline my children, or what kind of people we are from my posting about this, you didn't get as much out of your paddlings are you'd like to think, perhaps.
I only have a PROBLEM with asking the school NOT to paddle him, and them doing it two weeks later, not having offered me the paperwork to decline the discipline from the school, returned my phone calls, etc. My son got shoved and he shoved back. That is what he has been taught to do, because he won't be bullied by other kids at this school.
I actually have received an apology from the school board, so I guess I shouldn't worry about it anyway. He's no longer a student at this school. I'm an engineer and if I were to just ignore a procedure (giving the parent the paperwork and paddling anyway) and ignore phone calls, I would lose my job. This is not 1953.
Paddling has NO place in schools, you can paddle your kids in your home all you like (but THAT is illegal, anything other than your hand, so watch out) and administrators should not be able to have a different set of rules. Enough said.

kkm wrote:

Well,thank God we have all these perfect parents on this forum to show us the error of our ways.Just because we choose a different method of punishment does not make us bad parents.You do what works for you and I will do what works for me.I am not a perfect parent nor do I claim to be.I am very proud of my children the are grown now and and very respectful to other people.They are also hard working and don't expect others to take care of them.They also charish their parents as well as their own children.

thinking wrote:

<quoted text>Kids need their asses busted when they missbehave and distrupt the classroom. Your's included.

kkm wrote:

Well,thank God we have all these perfect parents on this forum to show us the error of our ways.Just because we choose a different method of punishment does not make us bad parents.You do what works for you and I will do what works for me.I am not a perfect parent nor do I claim to be.I am very proud of my children the are grown now and and very respectful to other people.They are also hard working and don't expect others to take care of them.They also charish their parents as well as their own children.

Tana wrote:

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Well my son was paddled, without my knowledge, after I'd had a conference with the administators asking them never to. I wasn't informed there was a form, and my son responded, even according to the assistant principal, to being pushed by pushing a boy back. They both got "two licks". I have a real problem with a school system not allowing me the opportunity to discipline my child before they take a paddle to him. He was the only child in his class last week to even make the honor roll, and two days later was paddled. It's ignorant to teach kids not to hit by hitting them. If I went in and hit the woman who hit him, it's called assault, and if I hit my son at home with anything other than my hand (using an instument) it is also against the law. It just doesn't make much sense...

James wrote:

SOme on this post give me the impression that if paddling was allowed more in schools. Society (mainly youth) would be better off. I have not seen any research to support this. However most of us who were paddled/spanked growing up lived in a more controlled enviroment. We went to school KNOWING we would not only could be paddled and I think we understood it would be unpleasant. Therefore our behavior and attitudes fell in line more. I know seeing a girl or boy paddled (even if they were removed from the room) made me straighten up EVEN if I did not need to. I got paddled in elementary school for not listening in class. I was not "beaten" but was given 3 smacks being bent over which hurt and brought enough tears. But I never talked in class for a long time.
It made me think about things for some time. But then I think times were different then.