ex wives who are vindictive

You are so right, KARMA runs deep.
If you are mistreated by an ex, he will get it the second or third time around..EX wives don't worry.My
ex husband cheated and was down right mean,even his mother said that she hoped we would never get back together despite the fact that I had a child.She embraced the other woman and I heard that his next wife really gave him a hard time, they are divorced now.He is on wife #3 who is 17 years younger than him and has 2 babies that aren't his...Now are you thinking what I am thinking...Sounds like KARMA may visit again, LOL

ELIZABETH wrote:

I AM SINCERELY SORRY FOR THE LADIES ON THIS FORUM WHO ARE GOING THROUGH HELL AND THEIR ONLY CRIME IS TO BE WIFE #? THESE ARE THE WOMEN WHO TELL THEIR STORY WITH DIGNITY AND INTELLIGENCE! BUT FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO STOOP SO LOW THAT YOU PUT DOWN THE EX WIFE AND HER CHILDREN WITH DEROGATORY COMMENTS(WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU)? YOU KNEW YOU WERE MARRYING SOMEONE WHO CAME ALONG WITH BAGGAGE!(A LITTLE JEALOUSY GOING ON THERE OF YOUR HUSBANDS PAST)! THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES TO A STORY,YOUR HUSBAND MIGHT NOT BE QUITE THE SAINT HE MIGHT HAVE PAINTED HIMSELF TO BE IN HIS PREVIOUS MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. BUT WHATEVER GOES ON BETWEEN THE ADULTS SHOULD NOT AFFECT THE CHILDREN BE THEY 1-20 YEARS+ THEY WILL BE HURT AND CONFUSED AND FIGHTING FOR THEIR FATHERS AFFECTION AND YES YOU WILL GET MOTHERS WHO MANIPULATE THEIR OFFSPRING TO SPY ON YOU, CAUSE TROUBLE WHATEVER! THEY WILL DO SO OUT OF MISGUIDED LOYALITY TO THEIR BIRTH MOTHER. BUT REALLY THE MORONS WHO THIS IS DIRECTED AT SHOULD TAKE A STEP BACK AND LOOK AT THEIR OWN BEHAVIOUR. HARDLY ABOVE REPROACH! AND BEFORE THE DELUDED IDIOTS COME BACK AT ME WITH SOME MEANINGLESS DRIVEL AS I HAVE STATED I AM LUCKY ENOUGH NOT TO BE AN EX AND I DO FEEL FOR THOSE OF YOU,WHO EVEN THOUGH LIFE MUST BE A LIVING HELL,YOU DEAL WITH IT WITH DIGNITY AND YOU DO NOT RESORT TO PETTY NAME CALLING! IT TAKES A STRONGER WOMAN WHO IS CONFIDENT IN HERSELF AND HER MARRIAGE TO SIMPLY RISE ABOVE IT! AND REMEMBER WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND!!!

It's nice to find out I'm not alone here with the crazy ex wives. My husband and I haven't even been married a year yet and I wonder if we'll ever be able to start "our family" I love his 2 kids and thank God they like me as well. I'm scared of what his ex is doing to them. My husband,being the nice guy that he is agreed to everything she asked for in the divorce without getting a lawyer. He was just tired from ten years of her cheating and was just wanted it over with. he didn't know that he would meet me and be able to have a loving relationship. Now, we're dealing with a crazy woman who is hating the fact that he is happy (even though SHE cheated and kicked him out) He went through 6 months of not seeing his kids and had to take out a loan for $20,000 after the divorce that we're now having to pay off as well as all their other debts (30,000+). We're now ALSO paying $1700 a month in child support +daycare +medical bills. Neither of us make much money and we can't even afford food when we do have the kids... Sometimes we can't go pick them up because we can't afford gas money and she tells the kids that we don't want to see them. I don't know what to do. We're trying to be the better person and do what's right... I need advice. I want my own family and a house and my husband feels horible that we're not able to get those things for our own family. I don't even want to bring it up because it makes him sad. I don't know what to do!!!

I am a little upset with this remark. My husband and stepdaughter are paying the price for the ex-wifes infidelity and bitterness. My husband DID NOT jilt his child or ex-wife. She is responsible for her own actions. It is funny how she has begged my husband to take her back even after she married another man. Now she is angry and hostile toward my husband for not wanting her back. When is Karma going to bite her in the ass for causing so much suffering for her own child? She uses her child as a weapon to destroy my husbands newly acquired happiness. It is not his fault she is miserable and hateful. We have taken the high road every step of the way and have not allowed ourselves to fall prey to her drama. Now the poor little child is going to needs years of therapy to undo all of her mothers damage. I don't have time nor the patience to explain the evil this woman and her current husband have committed against this child or my husband. I am a third party and can walk at any time but I love my husband and his daughter. I WILL NOT leave because they need my support and love. If this is her mothers goal (and I suspect it is) she is going to fail. When my stepdaughter grows up and looks back at the trauma in her childhood, her mother will have a lot of explaining to do.

ELIZABETH wrote:

<quoted text>ATLEAST SOMEONE WHO I AGREE WITH AND HAVE RESPECT FOR! KARMA? YES YOU WILL HAVE YOUR DAY AND LOOK BACK AND THINK WHAT THE **** DID I EVER SEE IN YOU! AND AS FOR IN-LAWS THAT CAN SO EASILY DISREGARD A CHILD, WELL BABE THEY ARE NOT WORTH LOSING ANY SLEEP OVER! YOU SEEM TO BE AN INTELLEGENT STRONG WOMAN AND THAT IS ALL YOUR CHILD NEEDS! BUT KARMA DOES HAVE A HABIT OF BITING PEOPLE ON THE ARSE WHEN THEY LEAST EXPECT IT!!!! YOU WILL HAVE YOUR DAY, OF THAT I AM SURE! XXXX

There have been many times i have wanted to leave my boyfriend, as i was sick of his ex (they were never married, but have 3 children together) and her ways.

She thinks she can sit on her *** and do a big fat nothing, while my boyfriend works his ass off to give her money, and it is never enough. she doesn't have a vehicle and she threatened that if he didn't buy her one she would go to the courts. Her children are always over at our place anyways, and eating with us and sleeping over, and still she demands more money. she doesnt work, she expects my boyfriend to give her $5000 a month!!

she has said " you will pay for the rest of your life!" And has also said ' i will make your life miserable, i will always be here, making your life hell!"

They have been apart for 10 years!

They had a house in Mexico, and she managed to take that away from him.

She left mexico, and is now living in B.c, and chose to live a block away from where we are.

We had the kids for 3 years and we never saw A DIME!
Yet, the kids are with h er, and she is going crazy asking for child support.
She has called me every name in the book, yet i have always taken care of her children when they are with us, feeding them, taking them places, paying for things...etc.

And when we go on vacations, she does a big freak-out, saying"you can't go anywhere, that's wrong!"

She very jealous, when she is the one who left him in the first pl,ace, and now she says she "wants the family back together"
she has gone on my facebook and stalked me everyday, i have had to block all communications with her, email, etc.
she bashes me every chance she gets, and she is just horrible.

She says the kids hate me, but when they come over we have a lot of fun together.
i could go on.
it is just ridiculous because she is trying to drive me away. but i am here forever, i will stand by my man.

Dating a "wonderful" man. Seperated for 3+ yrs...children are in their 30's. He left her because she screwed around. We've been together for a year...went to florida for a month long vacation...she called every other day....car broke down, blah, blah, blah. Its always something. Do I have the right to be pissed? Call your exboyfriend! I never call him when he's with his family. Apparently she doesnt show the same respect. Im about to leave him, because I dont want this BS in my life. But, I love him....still......any advice?

wow ! wow! i feel for all that have posted ... whare do i start? i left my crazy wife of nineteen years for another woman....the relationship was done about ten years in....anyway, the other woman had been divorced about six months earlier. her and i hooked up and were living together while my divorce was finalizing... just like clock work my nutty ex decides to hook up with my girls ex husband...what a nightmare! of course there are children involved as well, two on her side two on my side....this added very nice drama to drop off and pick up of kids ....horrible....those two idiots whom we refer to as dumb and dumber have harassed us since day one claiming that the reason thet bother us is because we "left them and they want to make us hurt like them"...they have since stopped the nonsense since we got the police involved and let the cops listen to voice mails and read emails and text messages. This is such a problem , and disturbing , that i dont even want to see or hear from my own kids because it is just an invitation for dumb (ex) to run her mouth....the ex got a 160k new house and 700 per month child support....i dont get it , when i was with her she hated me and treated me like crap..why keep bothering me? she should move on , its been two frekkin years ..im still with the girl i left my ex for and we are doing great , i dont have to walk on egg shells or feel like i cant be myself..my girl loves me for me and i love her for that./my ex on the other hand can go..and i wish she would go far far away... oh ya dumb and dumber also went to all family members together and whined that they got left by us and family should not like us for that..wonderful,,,,that alone has caused great stress for us...anyway dumb and bdumber are still together, the kids hate it and dont respect them whatsoever...the only time i get called is for a ride somewhere or drama going on...i have since opted to not answering the phone at all, and forcing folks to leave messages...this really gets to the ex, i can tell by her voice she doesnt like to be ignored , all i have to say to those two idiots in that damaging ,resentfilled relationship is ,,be careful what you wish for...no contact no contact no contact

Hey there,
I totally understand what you are going through as I am in a similar situation. My husband's ex-girlfriend (with whom they had two kids) is completely psychotic and inapropriate. When we first got together, she made all kinds of demands (including him not sleeping with me for three weeks). She insisted that he stay at her place a few nights a week so that their kids could adjust to him moving out (that was her pathetic excuse) and then she proceeded to attempt to seduce him. He refused and her behavior became incredibly pathetic. She ended up masturbating in front of him because she said she couldn't sleep unless she "got off" and that he had to be in the room for that to happen. He felt repulsed but sorry for her and was just completely shocked, but drew the line when she kept trying to get him to have sex with her or help her masturbate. This makes me want to vomit even thinking about it and I think she is one of the most pathetic women on the planet. What kind of sicko would do this to a guy that is leaving them for a younger and prettier woman? Keep in mind that she is physically fairly unnatractive. She is overweight, doesn't take care of herself and dresses like an old lady. Isn't the normal reaction rage. If I was her, I would want him out of my life and would be doing my best to rebuild my life and self-esteem, not throwing myself at him sexually and making bizarre demands. He finally had enough of dealing with her crap and said he was not staying over at the house at all and would not be there without me there too. She has had a series of complete meltdowns and is always rude and inapropriate. She calls at all hours and expects us to work with her schedule but will not work with ours at all. She sent me vile letters, harassed me at my work and attempted to turn my friends against me (nice try! as if that would work!) On the day we became engaged she had a meltdown and called my then-fiance and screamed at him for almost an hour about how we were ruining her life and that I was wrong for him (cause she was so right for him). She told him that he had cheated on me by letting her do her disgusting sexual stuff even though I already knew about it and threatened to tell me about it. The wind was taken out of her sails when she found out that I already knew all about it. Anyway, I had had enough of her crap and so I finally sent her a letter telling her all my thoughts on her behavior and telling her to let go and move on. It seems to have helped because although she is still rude and will not speak to me, she has been calling less and hasn't attempted anything overly inapropriate lately. She is completely disgusting as a person and the more I learn about her the more I am disgusted. My husband was extremely unhappy with her and their relationship was like the Titanic when I came along. His ex lied to him, mis-managed their money, is not intelligent, has no interests or hobbies (other than reading trashy romances), no sense of humor-all around a boring and unnatractive person. I'm not the only one who thinks this, even though I admit, my experience with her has made her flaws more vivid to me. This has been an incredibly difficult situation and I know I am stuck with her in my life for many years to come (at least until the kids are in college) but it is comforting to know that I am not alone and that other women are going through this. The one thing that makes it all worthwhile is being with the love of my life and getting to be married to my best friend. The things we girls put up with to be with our guys!

Just so you know, many step-moms, such as myself, have a deep respect for the relationship between a dad and his children with an ex and not all dads in this situation cheat. My husband was completely honest with his ex and left her before he got together with me. He never cheated on her and gave her the respect that she deserved as the mother of his children. What he did not do is stay with the mother of his children and that was not wrong. How respectful would it be to stay with a woman that he did not love? I would not want a man to stay with me if he did not love me. That would be degrading and disrespectful. As for the kids, in our situation (and many others) I think it is far better for them to have a dad that is happy and with a wife that he loves. The children are getting to grow up in a happy, stable family with a healthy relationship being modeled for them. Their dad loves their step-mom and shows respect for his ex (their bio-mom). This is a far better situation that the kids growing up in a home where both parents are unhappy and modeling a disfunctional relationship. Adults break up with each other, face it. If you are a rejected ex, just have some dignity and move on. Come to terms with the fact that your ex doesn't want to be with you and is happier with someone else. Move on and learn to make yourself happy rather than trying to make other people unhappy out of petty revenge and bitterness. Revenge doesn't work anyway and just makes the ex-wife pathetic and degraded in the long run.

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Long story short,psycho ex,Phone calls, threatening letters,Property damage, pizza & chinese food deliveries, I could go on and on.We finally got a video of her hitting our garage door with her car.Took her to court, we got a $1275 judgement on her and she got 3 years probation.I was thrilled.The look on her face in court was priceless,She thought we`d have no proof.One month later she died of an aneurysm.I was almost disappointed because we never got the chance to actually put her in jail.Geesh I hated that woman!

i agree with the ex comment. if my husband's ex would spend the money he pays on the kid, it wouldn't be so bad, but she spends it on herself. parting, vacations lux items. then beggs for money to buy the kid stuff. that is what makes me mad.

thanks!to who ever came up with this site. alot of times you can't say things out load like you would like to. this is just a good way to release some frustrations and others know where you are coming from. so thanks again!

first time here. have an ex wife that is ruthless. i've been divorced for 11 years with 2 daughters 19 and 17, just when i think they are mature enough to see through their mothers constant crap, the ex does something else to try and drive a wedge between us. i remarried 7 years ago and my wife and i get along great, but she also is sick of the exwife also. just want to be part of my girls lives but the ex just keeps doing things that makes me stay away. just recently i found out she is dating a friend of mine that i've had for 15 years. guess not a true friend. pissed me off, thought he was a friend but she is the kind of person that can manipulate anyone. just frustrated, wanted to go to my girls softball game tonight but just didn't want to see the ex wife. anyone have suggestions?

mark wrote:

first time here. have an ex wife that is ruthless. i've been divorced for 11 years with 2 daughters 19 and 17, just when i think they are mature enough to see through their mothers constant crap, the ex does something else to try and drive a wedge between us. i remarried 7 years ago and my wife and i get along great, but she also is sick of the exwife also. just want to be part of my girls lives but the ex just keeps doing things that makes me stay away. just recently i found out she is dating a friend of mine that i've had for 15 years. guess not a true friend. pissed me off, thought he was a friend but she is the kind of person that can manipulate anyone. just frustrated, wanted to go to my girls softball game tonight but just didn't want to see the ex wife. anyone have suggestions?

Well, Maybe if your friend and your ex hit it off,she`ll focus more on him and less on making your life miserable, What`s more important, Some old buddy or peace in you and your current wife`s lives?And maybe she`ll concentrate on him and forget about driving a wedge between you and your daughters.I`d encourage it if I were you!!

thanks for the suggestion, susan. yeah i thought that maybe she would concentrate on him also but, recently she told my daughter that 19 and a sophmore in college that she should go out and buy a brand new car but dad needs to pay for the insurance. i diagreed on that idea, i bought my daughter her first car, its not great but it gets her nwhere she needs to go. i just didn't think financially it is a good move for a college kid that has three more years of school. so because i don't agree with the ex she wrote me a nasty letter telling me i don't care about my kids and i should be ashamed of myself. after the last 2 years i've dishe out over 24,000 in child support and helping with college and so on and so on. just ticks me off, if she ever came up with even half of what i have to spend on the kids they would have every thing. see you she tries to make me out to be a bad guy?

mark wrote:

thanks for the suggestion, susan. yeah i thought that maybe she would concentrate on him also but, recently she told my daughter that 19 and a sophmore in college that she should go out and buy a brand new car but dad needs to pay for the insurance. i diagreed on that idea, i bought my daughter her first car, its not great but it gets her nwhere she needs to go. i just didn't think financially it is a good move for a college kid that has three more years of school. so because i don't agree with the ex she wrote me a nasty letter telling me i don't care about my kids and i should be ashamed of myself. after the last 2 years i've dishe out over 24,000 in child support and helping with college and so on and so on. just ticks me off, if she ever came up with even half of what i have to spend on the kids they would have every thing. see you she tries to make me out to be a bad guy?

I can see how she`s trying to make you the bad guy, I think a lot of ex wives do this kind of stuff also to keep the kids from becoming friends with the step mom.But I doubt if your daughters at their ages will start calling your current wife "Mommy", So I really can`t understand why she tries to sour your relationship with them. But your daughters are practically grown,So all I can say is hang in there and be glad their not little babies with lots of years of mommy`s influence!

YEP wrote:

DOES ANYONE THINK THAT IF ONE PARENTS WANTS THE CHILD THEN THEY SHOULD HAVE TO PAY FOR THE CHILD?AND IF IT WERE SHARED CUSTODY THEN THEY PAY FOR THE CHILD WHEN THEY HAVE THEM. THAT ONLY SEEMS FARE. THAT WAY YOU KNOW THAT THE MONEY SPENT IS GOING SOULEY TO THE CHILD AND NOT THE PARENT TO SPEND ON OTHER THAN WHAT THE MONEY WAS MEANT FOR. I JUST DON'T THINK THAT CHILD SUPPORT IS FARE. I AND MY HUSBAND BOTH WORK. BUT IS OTHER EVIL EX ONLY WORKS PART TIME AND CLAIMS THE MONEY SHE GETS EVER MONTH ISN'T ENOUGH. SHE GETS FOR THAN MY HOUSE PAYMENT EVER MONTH. AND STILL BEGGS FOR MORE MONEY FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS. FOR SOMEONE WHO CLAIMS NOT TO HAVE THE MONEY TO TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD SHE SURE FINDS WAYS TO TAKE LONG WEEKEND TRIPS AND VACATION A WHOLE LOT. I WAS JUST WONDERING IF ANYONE ELSE FEELS THE WAY I DO. OR IS IT JUST ME. THANKS FOR ANY HELP. AND HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO ALL!

In my honest opinion, I don't think child support is completely unfair. I do think, however, that the parent receiving the child support should be required to show receipts to the child support enforcement office to show the child support is going to the needs of the child. My stepdaughter routinely goes without at her mothers home because the child support is used to pay her mother and stepfathers bills. We do our best to make sure she gets what she wants but it stays at our house. The way we see it, it is her mother's job to provide for her at her home and our job to provide for her at our home. Anything we buy her stays with us. This way she still gets what she wants but her mother is not rewarded for not using the child support on the child. Child support is unfair to the point that nobody helps us provide for the child when she is with us and I don't think that the child support should be used to pay rent, car payments, etc. If the custodial parent did not have custody they would still need those things. The child support should be used for the child only. NO EXCEPTIONS. My stepdaughter was once told by her mother she could not have something while at the store because her dad did not pay child support!!! The stepdaughter told my husband this and he immediately showed her his pay stubs showing that the money was going to her mother. You could see the light go on in her head. The irony is that the mother also just received a 45% increase in her child support around the same time she told her child that my husband was not paying child support. Some people are just sick and very bitter. We are patiently waiting for the child to see the truth about her mother. So far, the mother is doing the job for us by lying to her daughter and using the child support for her and her husbands needs only.

well heres an update..after months of no contact and hanging up at the slightest hint of drama..the ex has finally laid off...i see my kids every other weekend...i printed a visitation schedule for my son so he knows when hes coming..no need for telephone calls or anything...i had just gotten so fed up that i said enough is enough..no contact.im not going there any more with this person..the reasons for divorce dont matter , what happened in the past doesnt matter anymore either...done! i was willing to hold out for however long it would of taken to cease the drama...funny ..recently she called and pretty much apologized for her behavior and said she would like it to stop..i said , thats nice, its about time and simply hung up. good for her, after a year and a half she may finally be getting the picture...i am currently in a loving relationship...loving. i didnt even have a clue what that meant after my 19 year and three kids disaster... wow ...i feel so much better on a day to day basis not having to argue with someone for whatever reason...i am going to marry my new partner in a few months because i truly love her and how she makes me feel....the ex needs to stop looking for a reason to be miserable and just move on...because i have...it takes two to tango ......sidenote.....upon our divorce my ex found out that my current fiancee was divorced eight months prior...so what did the ex do?..of course she slithered her way in to my fiancees ex arms ..wow those two got dumped and they hooked up..how pathetic...they caused so much crap for the past year..unimaginable....anyway, word is their little nonsense has run its course and we are hearing less and less out of them..we get alot of info from our kids..two on her side two on mine....funny how carma works... i also have great concern for my boys ages 11-16 ...they seem to be ok ....i feel a lot better after reading these posts , and realizing that the kids will see through all the garbage their mom has put them through and know that i have always been there for them..i told my 16 yr old if it makes it easier to just agree with his mom that im the bad guy to get along with her , then just agree..im willing to be the bad guy...it is worth it...he will see one day...i pay my child support and i handle my visitation...last time i checked, it wasnt a crime to not want to be in a abusive relationship..even if there are kids involved....kids are NOT a reason to stay together........whew...it feels really good to vent...