Can a man love his wife andcheat on her?

What do you think?

Of course not! For assurance, ask your preacher.....or Jesus!

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Happens a lot.. Can you love Jesus and sin ? People are human and are wired to make mistakes.. You ask for forgiveness and try and to learn from your mistakes

THAT FREAKIN' TEMPTATION CHICK is always begging for attention or....could be a Dude..no matter..simply put..we are all human (I think, heard there were aliens amongst us)...Well, getting back to the subject...if you do cheat, just as LeeRoy stated you ask for forgiveness from Jesus and God...that's the easy part...cuz, you know you will tell your spouse..will she forgive you is another matter..you may be in the dog house for awhile...but if she really loves ya..she will forgive you...JUST KEEP WATCHIN' YOUR BACK...Words are easy to say...actions speak louder and hurt the physical body..WHAT?

I don't know why some people have such a hard time seperating sex from love. The best relationship to have is one thats open. I love my wife dearly and she loves me. Why can't we love each other and yet find others attractive or hot? If two people are secure in their relationship, and are completely open and honest with each other, there's nothing wrong with having physical relationships outside the realms of a committment. Just because I have a Porsch in my garage doesn't mean that I don't want to drive my truck or my Harley on occasion.

Big Daddy wrote:

I don't know why some people have such a hard time seperating sex from love. The best relationship to have is one thats open. I love my wife dearly and she loves me. Why can't we love each other and yet find others attractive or hot? If two people are secure in their relationship, and are completely open and honest with each other, there's nothing wrong with having physical relationships outside the realms of a committment. Just because I have a Porsch in my garage doesn't mean that I don't want to drive my truck or my Harley on occasion.

Whoa..DUDE, nicely put...Hmmmmm, you have vehicles you possess..they could give a care if you ride them or not..metal and leather, that's it. Cold inanimate objects until ya rev them up..unlike the love you hold for your wife, all warm and tender. Or, do you just want the marriage thingy because you want the security knowing your sheets will be clean, your belly full and she helps to pay the bills. Seems ya want your birthday cake and eat it too..can't have both, there is always a price to pay. Open relationships are what they are..Why did ya even get married in a church..mocking God and his comandments? Believe me, get divorced and see how long your "open" relationships last..they won't,cuz you both will just be considered "single" the thrill of the hunt will cease. I'll tell ya, my ole' man cheats on me...WAIT FOR IT!

We got married because we not only love one another but are in love with each other too. The relationship we have goes so much deeper than just physical. Maybe that's what you don't understand. Having sex outside of matrimony is just that, sex. No way would I divorce my soul mate just to have a physical relationship with someone. It's my firm belief that if all couples were open and honest with each other about ALL aspects of the relationship then they would be som much happier and healthier. O.k. So I have a lady that works at my office that has a smoking hot body. Hell, I don't care about her lifes dreams or her insecurities. I just want to have sex with her. Same with my wife. If someone at her office is hot and looks to have a nice 'package', why shouldn't she be free to get with him. We're not looking to replace each other. We both know that can't be done. We just want a little strange from time to time. As long as we're open and honest with each other, there's no problems. How many relationships or marriages have broken up because of lying and deceit? There is none of that here. In our marriage we are free to express ourselves how ever and when ever we choose.

guest wrote:

What do you think?

you can love your spouse ( and many do) but if you respect her/him you will do nothing that will cause them harm in any way, weather it is spirtual, mental, physical, or any other way. think about who will be affected and how by your actions.

Big Daddy wrote:

We got married because we not only love one another but are in love with each other too. The relationship we have goes so much deeper than just physical. Maybe that's what you don't understand. Having sex outside of matrimony is just that, sex. No way would I divorce my soul mate just to have a physical relationship with someone. It's my firm belief that if all couples were open and honest with each other about ALL aspects of the relationship then they would be som much happier and healthier. O.k. So I have a lady that works at my office that has a smoking hot body. Hell, I don't care about her lifes dreams or her insecurities. I just want to have sex with her. Same with my wife. If someone at her office is hot and looks to have a nice 'package', why shouldn't she be free to get with him. We're not looking to replace each other. We both know that can't be done. We just want a little strange from time to time. As long as we're open and honest with each other, there's no problems. How many relationships or marriages have broken up because of lying and deceit? There is none of that here. In our marriage we are free to express ourselves how ever and when ever we choose.

Have you or your wife ever developed a relationship with a "sex buddy"? If not,have you discussed what might happen if it turns into something more? I mean no disrespect in asking, I would genuinely like to know.

Curious1 wrote:

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Have you or your wife ever developed a relationship with a "sex buddy"? If not,have you discussed what might happen if it turns into something more? I mean no disrespect in asking, I would genuinely like to know.

That's where being open and honest comes in. Neither of us is going to leave the other based on a physical relationship. Why would we? Again, sex is sex. What we have between us is so much deeper than that.

Big Daddy wrote:

<quoted text> That's where being open and honest comes in. Neither of us is going to leave the other based on a physical relationship. Why would we? Again, sex is sex. What we have between us is so much deeper than that.

Whoa.. a whole new meaning of being "married" comes to light with your "open marriage concept"...You can keep it...Sex may just be a random act concerning animals..heck,even male dogs hump another when the urge arrives. They do it and just walk away..unlike a human,who exchanges words and does the act, there is touching of skin everywhere, moans and groans are shared..perhaps even setting up another HOT SEX DATE Time. Yep, don't know how spouses can do this and face their spouse,even if they agree upon it. Whatever works for you, it's your call...NOT MINE!

Big Daddy wrote:

<quoted text> That's where being open and honest comes in. Neither of us is going to leave the other based on a physical relationship. Why would we? Again, sex is sex. What we have between us is so much deeper than that.

I didn't necessarily mean to imply that either of you would leave the other but have either of you had just one person that you have seen on the side on a regular basis for a year or more? Is it strictly hook up and only sex or meet for coffee and head somewhere?

Yes it is only hook up and have sex. We are emotionally involved with each other and are not looking to become that with anyone else. We have some friends that we meet together, where it's a couple thing. As long as the lines of communication are kept open, it's all good.

Big Daddy wrote:

Yes it is only hook up and have sex. We are emotionally involved with each other and are not looking to become that with anyone else. We have some friends that we meet together, where it's a couple thing. As long as the lines of communication are kept open, it's all good.

You're right,...it's ALL good, it's just that some are better than others. Wait 'till you come across "that one" that blows your chrome off, in other words, that one that you think is better in bed than your wife. Let's see how strong this "emotionally involved" is!........ Yyyyeeeaaahhhhhhh. But I'm with ya, hoss!... Now what was your wife's phone number?

When it comes to sex your spouse is like a
home-cook meal but EVERYONE likes to eat out every once in a while. But nothing will replace or satisfy you as a good HOME-COOK meal.

Just out of curiousity, how would you feel if you brought a disease home or an unplanned pregnancy, or slept with some woman that did this because she wanted what you have (meaning a home, money, whatever)Believe it or not, some women sleep with men because it makes them feel wanted and loved.Do you feel so strongly about this open marriage that you would pass it along to your daughter, or son?? You see where this could get ugly fast.. Way too many risks and I believe, against a God that I believe in

Not only that, if the urge strikes, it is way safer and I am sure cheaper to rent a flick and just run you off a quick batch

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pontifex wrote:

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Hmmm, a chickpal and I were discussing this very topic recently...she said it states in the Bible, that if a married man "cheats" on his wife, then the wife can leave the marriage. Tooo bad that when the MAN does this, a bolt of lightning is struck at his feet by GOD...think that may curb future urges. It's one thing to 'cheat" in your mind when ya desire another and to fantastize...BUT TO ACTUALLY plan the affair, meet and have sexual intimacy...that is your Stage Left, Exit from the marriage. Trust you again...NOT EVEN with the grocery list...

It's not possible to truly love someone while cheating on them