Go ahead with the courts both civil and criminal. Convict him without him being there so when some place on this planet catches up with him they nail him. Now about the civil, get real $50 K is a joke, think of all that you went through, Yes, all . Then go for at least a million dollars then if they want to come down from there you have room. At 50k they the church will offer half so from 25 the lawyer gets 1/3 plus phones calls , letters etc and you wind up with next to nothing. At a million you end up with something around $400,000. But that still cannot buy the day back the day it happened.
Trust no priest. not one. They should either be able to marry including same sex of age if that is the case.