8/20 - Man in Jail for Murder in Cheboygan County

It's been almost 18 weeks and our son has not forgotten his father. You can't tell me that if Jon was a bad person that his son would want to see him so bad. Nick dreams about him and says he's going to beat all the bad guys up.

One day on the way to preschool Nick says, "Guess what Mommy?" I say, "What Nick?" He said, "My Daddy is dead. Bad people come and punch him in his head. I'm going to heaven to save Daddy from the angels." I told him Daddy is safe and he's all better now. He then asked if Daddy stopped bleeding. Mind you, I have not told my three year old the details of what happened. He saw his dad at the funeral and could tell that he had cuts on his face even though the funeral home covered them up.

I thank everyone that has reached out a helping hand to Nick and me throughout this. It is so hard with the holidays coming to even be able to enjoy them.

So sad for all involved.

Next trial date is Jan 20th at 1:30

Is there a web site that shows the court dates and times? Heard jury selection was Jan 11 is the 20th one of the same?

Thank you for this...

Greenwally wrote:

Ive know Jon for for about 10 years. In fact half of that time he rented a room in my home and lived with us as a valued member of my family. During this time i have first hand witnessed hundreds of visitations with his children and not one time did i ever see anything that even closely resembled "abuse". Since his death I have seen an overwhelming amount of photographs of Jon and 90% of them contain a photo of a child who is always smiling. Jon was a wonderful parent. I wish my own children were so lucky. As for Kelly, I meet her one time when Jon brought her to my home. I told Jon something didnt set right with me about her and I'm thankful to say he honored my request to never bring her to my home again. I've never meet Thomas but from what Ive heard; he drove 60 miles, then waited in the dark for hrs till Jon got home and fell asleep. Indeed the first blows were delivered while Jon slept. The coronor claims 15 skull fractures. Sounds like premeditated murder by a coward to me. If I had my choice Thomas would be executed and all his belongings auctioned for Jon's minor childrens care. It sickens me that Kelly can now drive away and write her own story to the child.

Amen.

I miss Jon, and Tyler

Jury selection is feb 10th not in january

What is Jan. 20th please?
I asked prior, is there a web site for court?

We get our information from the victim's advocate. You can call the prosecutor's office too. If you're a friend of Tom's try writing him or talking to his attorney

Thanks.

Kelley Kowalik
Tue, Sep 20, 2005 at 12:45 AM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Hi sweetie!
I just wanted to tell you that I have not been so comfortable with someone, or had so much fun, and so much in common in...?.... was gonna say a long time, but I'm not sure if ever really. But that's OK, it feels great and I'm gonna go with it! I hope we're on the same page. I think so. I so badly wanted you to come over, but lookin' around here, I'm glad you didn't! Only cuz I would have felt not as good of a comfort level. I was thinking too, maybe I was just being anal and should or could of swallowed my pride for a bit. I do miss you already and cuddling sounds soooooo good! Like I said...can't wait to talk to you and see you again.
I think you are great! Your sense of humor, your kindness, your cuteness, your genuineness, and I could go on.... you ARE a very special person, and I can't imagine ever NOT meeting you. There would be a little hole in my life.... anyway, I'll shut up for now and go to bed thinking of you and your beautiful smiling face.
P.S. I can't believe I can say all this after 1 date, but I can, and I look forward to many many more!
ttys....Kelley

Kelley Kowalik
Mon, Sep 26, 2005 at 12:26 PM
To: Jonathan Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Dear Jon,
I read your reply with a big lump in my throat, even though I knew your reply would be something to the effect you wrote. I'm sorry you feel the way you do because I was so excited to have met someone like you. As far as my anger...it lasted about a second (which it usually takes alot to make me angry)...and I thought about the reason why I did even get a little miffed... with the effort it takes me to work something with my hands at times, because of pain, is frusterating. And I thought you were'nt taking me very seriously when I told you that it hurt and you laughed and did it again even when I said "please don't". I'm sure it was more hurtful than actually "making me mad" and I was a dumb ass for not expresssing myself better and I'm sorry. I really wish you would not bail or pull back on me now. I wish you would get that crap that's stuck in your head "unstuck". I'm not an angry person, I am human and I hope that you would want to deal with this and move on, because life is to enjoy and I WAS enjoying it with you and still want to. Please don't back away now...I don't want to lose you because of one small incident. I just would hate to think that we would just stop seeing eachother now when things just might have worked out. The last thing I ever want to do is hurt you. Maybe I'm the idiot that didn't think this would happen and I already let you in my heart... now it's breaking, for real. I can't stop crying....so that tells me how much joy you brought into my life and I feel like it'll be empty without you. So, why don't you give us a "real" chance and not bail now like you said you usually do-or pull back. I really think it's worth it, and I'm sorry you couldn't tell me your feelings before you left yesterday...maybe we could have avoided all this. And I guess I don't know what you meant by your heart isn't ready to be loved quite yet. But maybe that's more the reason for your bailing than my anger. I'm crazy about you and sorry if your "heart" isn't ready to be loved yet....but to late, cuz I love you. If this is fear related, please don't be afraid, as I would never hurt you Jon, not intentionally. I have told everyone in my life about you and how excited I am...now I don't know, seems like a dream..that ended up a bad dream. I just ask that you give this some thought, and don't throw away something that might be the most special gift ever - love.
I don't know what else to say, and part of me wants to just drive up there to see you, because I don't want this to be over, but I will wait until you reply. Or call me if u want-anytime. PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP!!! I don't want to.
Love,
Kelley

Kelley Kowalik
Sun, Oct 2, 2005 at 8:26 PM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Dear Jon,
I had to write this letter. You can do with it what you will. Things between us went pretty fast from the get go, you seemed to persue me hot & heavy, and I was right along with you in feeling the same excitement of meeting someone so cool, someone who you have so much in common with , who "gets" you, and the attraction is strong... I think it is a little scary when something like that happens, and you have so much in common and seem to get along so well with someone so fast. A lot of feelings and "stuff" come up (even past crap). All those feelings I had so fast, I had never experienced before, but they sure felt good. Anyway, those feelings of fear/ or the past, getting hurt, is confusing/scary...nobody wants that!
...but I guess it's what you do with that fear. I don't want to let it close me off, or thoughts and failures in past relationships. It doesn't have to be like that anymore. It's someone new, that whatever forces brought that person into my life, and the excitement of getting to know that person, and who they are and how much they may enhance my life and I don't want anything to criple that. It is scary, of course, and although that makes me pretty volunerable, I WANT to take that chance because life is to short, as painful as it may end up... how will I ever know love if I don't try?! Well, I was willing to... and I really thought you were as well... but I appear to be wrong ,I think (it just hasn't been verified yet), and very sad as well. Especially to hear something from you would mean alot, and help , and I would like to hope you respect me enough, even as a friend, to tell me whats goin' on. I have a feeling it's another woman, just cuz a couple of my guy friends said that's probably what it is. I don't want to think that or anything else hurtful (it's hard not to at times) But I don't want to assume anything. And since I've sent you previous mail about where I'm at & how I feel, I will not send anything else or bother you anymore. I don't want to put myself through anymore unsettling feelings of not knowing where I stand. If you decide to not continue our relationship anymore, I am very sad and I really do/did have a special feeling about you/us. And I'll be sorry we never would have the chance to even see if it was right.
My would was still enriched by you...if even only for a few days.
Kelley

Kelley Kowalik
Wed, Sep 28, 2005 at 6:30 PM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Hey honey,
I had a bad day...car is history...I will be able to borrow my dad's truck to drive - even though it's a Ford too.- lol
So, I'm on my way home and stop to get smoke filters and a subway sandwich. I ordered a subway club and apparently the sandwich artist was new... I have never seen anyone with such a problem making a sandwich...then...all the stuff that goes on it... looked like this sandwich artist was trained by Picasso. lol The stuff was all over, and piled in one spot... I wish I had a camera... I for sure would have captured that beauty! I had 3 bites when I got home and decided I didn't want to wrestle with it, and now it's in the fridge. Plus I got a combo and my coke was flat... JUST NOT MY DAY! I think I'd break down and cry if I didn't have this "laughing at life" mechanism built in. And, if I did "lose it" how would I know?! I'm not sure exactly happens to oneself then. lol
Now I have to find the means to get a new car...my mom says "I think you're gonna have to call your dad, and ask him for 500.00$ and Jim and I will put in 500.00& for you. Well, first of all I hate having to talk to that sperm doner...cuz he's rarely given me anything except crap to deal with. He always says he's broke. Which is a joke, the man makes over $150,000 a year. So, once and a while one of us will get lucky when we ask for something...so it's always worth a try. I just have to have no expectations from the man.
Well, if by a chance in hell comes true...then I'll have $1,000 to buy a car with. I'm in waiting limbo...I called and left the message for him to call me. all the other shit that happened today just sorta fell in the category with everything else....not to mention I don't get to talk to you. That's OK sweetie, we'll talk soon.. meanwhile I'll sit here awhile and .hehe
Luv Kel

Kelley Kowalik
Wed, Jan 11, 2006 at 4:20 PM
To: Jonathan Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Jon,
Just to keep you in the loop, unfortunatly I have to get some more testing done before a final decision can be made. And my Dr. is calling me tomorrow to set that up since he is not in today. There are some very risky things involved here for me, with my own health and this child's health (which any kind of abnormalities should be able to be detected in these tests as well). Going through this mental anguish, I have not slept in 4 days now, just a couple hours here & there as I am overwhelmed with concerns and going through it alone.
Today I read your blog for the 1st time in a while... if only my problems were so small as to be limited to a problem w/blog entries, I would be flying. You say you have your feet firmly planted on the ground, but I think if that was the case, you could possibly put some of your pride aside, or whatever it may be,(plz don't take as an attack) and be there as a friend or support person for me as you were before this ever happened, at least while this child is in my belly. I thought it was going to be OK that way since you had cared enough after this happened to offer to come help me clean my apt. but then that crap hit the fan, and you really turned into a jerk on me just 'cause of a possible meeting of another person. Well, i guess 'cause of your own disappointment, you took your anger out on me. I know there was a point where you did care for me before, and I'm not sure what happened there. You don't have to worry that i want a relationship with you anymore since you have been so cold and cruel about this whole thing, and to me, besides the fact that that isn't what you want. But I could sure could use your friendship and support, at least while I am carrying this child around. I'm sad that the friendship we had seems to be gone, but I also don't want things to be one sided. I am still the same person that you said was so coo it hurts, and that you wanted friendship w/before. It's still me, same coo person, just adding the fact of this child that neither of us wanted to begin with, and all the stress I have to deal with that goes along with it. You are lucky you don't have to feel the kinds of things I do, and have the major concerns and decisions that will effect the rest of your life like I do and go thru it alone. You are just as part of this as I am. I was hoping if anything, we could get to a point that I can be comfortable talking to you again and not afraid that you're going to say hurtful things to me... God knows, it's the last thing I need right now. Well, I guess that's all for now. Take care, Kel

Kelley Kowalik
Tue, Jan 24, 2006 at 4:00 PM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Hiya sexy..
I don't think tonight will work for me if you were thinking of coming over. I was thinking about it a lil, and it's not that I don't want to see you, and as much as we do love having sex together, I'm a lil questionable about it as are you. going by the last time or 2 you've had some regrets that you came over, saying you shouldn't have. And I don't want you to come over unless you & I feel comfortable enough with it, or with us, to do that. I'm glad that we're talking again anyway, and I hope to continue to do so... we'll see what happens.. maybe we will start to feel comfortable enough to get together, who knows, but until that happens.. I don't like the thought of regret. Hard part is I really do miss the sex part w/you, but I/we have to feel OK enough on an emotional level to do it, and even if I did but u didn't... that would make me feel uncomfortable. Hope this made sense! LOL
I'll talk to ya soon, maybe later... Kelley

Kelley Kowalik
Wed, Jan 25, 2006 at 2:23 AM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Hiya.. I gotta tell ya, I don't think I'm ready to see you yet, since I can't seem to make up my mind, and what you said tonight kinda changed my mind (besides my flexuating hormones & the fast that I've been naucious all night-up til now, that hasn't been such an issue 4 me, but it is at the moment). We can still talk for now, but I'm just not ready to see you.. there's also the fact that I know that one person u had sex with, you didn't use protection, and you're kinda scareing me with the way ur gettin' around.. Doesn't sound like you're having any trouble in that dept. so, I don't think you'll go long b4 u have sex again. I'm just beginning to see you in a different light.. you're definatly far from the person I met... not saying that's bad, it's just who you are, and it only matters that you're OK with that. Before we even met and had just talked alot, you said things like sex was just a bonus to everything else, and much about you was different (you were very sweet b4, now u can actually say some unpleasant things to me and I'm not sure why).. I'm not sure if everything you said was just to get me into bed w/you, but that doesn't matter anymore.. just saying I am seeing your true colors/character, and that attraction I had to you is different now. It seems you're just interested in sleeping around, and maybe cuz that's the truth.. only you know the answer to that.. meanwhile, I pretty much have to deal w/this pregnancy thing on my own, and it's not easy. It could be easier if you acted like you cared a lil, but I guess you can't. If anything Jon, I just want to be able to get along w/you and act like adults about everything.. Please, no more meaness, I just don't need that, nor would I ever treat you that way. Well, guess I said what I had to.. I'll TTYS and let you know what happens at the Dr. tomorrow.

Jonathan Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Wed, Jan 25, 2006 at 8:33 AM
To: Kelley Kowalik
Yeah whatever, you got around as much as i did! we both wanted to fill a void in our lives, after we split. hows the veiw from your Cross!

Kelley Kowalik
Wed, Jan 25, 2006 at 11:42 AM
To: Jonathan Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
I tried again to say what I had to nicely, and not being mad, but you are so defensive. I did only have sex 1 time since you and I know I'm being honest, so the view from my cross is fine. I wasn't trying to fill a void in my life.. honestIy, I was just horny, and I knew this person for a long time before.. not that that matters. I don't feel anger like you do, and it makes me think that you r a very unhappy person w/issues you haven't dealt with, and I hope that someday you can, because I do know that your core person is a good person, a very deep-hearted person, the person that cared about that animals life so much. You could actually be happy... but you have to see others as human beings first. I always told you from the beginning about my "gut" inside feeling about you, and I still believe that. I didn't intend to attack you here in this letter, I was letting you know my feelings/fear. It seems you always lash back w/anger instead of looking maybe taking responsibility for yourself.. you blame in return.. when I really didn't say anything mean in the 1st place. The last thing I tried to say when I wrote this was I didn't want you to take it the wrong way (be adults), & my wish that we can remain to get along. In truth, I can say my feeings were, I was worried that you would take it wrong, that I felt sad that we ended up where we are- at least right now, that I miss you (the real inside part of you, the things that make you you), that it bummed me out to think of you having sex w/someone else.. but I'm not afraid to say how I feel.. no matter what the response. I am OK to make myself volunerable now, cuz I know I will never get anywhere w/o doing so (taking those risks). I have worked on all my life traumas (took me a while to get to this point & wasn't easy, & what a relief I feel now) but now I am OK with that, and that I don't carry that anger, nor do I want to. Really, if you can look at what I wrote and see my feelings as human and not an attack on you.. you wouldn't respond with "YA, WHATEVER"... I hope you can get over that attack feeling someday, for your own sake & ur kids. You grew up w/someone who "attacked" and until you heal from that, I think you will always feel that way, and until then, the world revolves around you, and w/o that humility. I know I've tried a few times to get this across to you, but you don't seem to want to get it. You lash back out before you even think about what was said to you, and maybe ur not ready to see that. Again, never did I feel like I was attacking you nor was I trying. If ur not willing to look at any of that stuff at this point in ur life, it would at least be nice, & try to put whatever negative feelings you have aside, at least while I'm going thru this. I don't think you would want to be treated that way, so plz don't do it to me.. I still care about you, because I became to, and because I carry this baby. Like I said , I hope we can get along at least for that reason no matter what ends up happening w/my pregnancy. We did make this baby together and my wish, well, I've already expressed that. I will say again that I know you are a good person somewhere inside, you're funny, intelligent, and have a big heart(that i hope u will someday see). Going by ur 1st response, I'm not sure you'll wanna talk to me for a while now. Either way, I will send you e-mail to let u know what's happening. If I didn't care about you..I would have never wrote all this. Hope to TTYS.. Kelley

Kelley Kowalik
Sun, Jan 29, 2006 at 1:59 AM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
I had a really nice time the other nite when you were here! Thanks for the massages, they were yummy, especially when you did my breasts, mmmmmm,(I can still feel it) and etc. Like I said I hope you are feeling better. I got my appt. for that CVS testing on Feb.13th (Mon.)in Grand Rapids. Since I'm really not supposed to drive, I have to find someone to drive me or drive my car, at least home. I think Sandie is going to do it. She has to take off work, but she wants to. Partically because she's pissed at my mom, and just cuz she wants to help me. Yesterday my mom decided to call me up with a list of things she had written to read me... Well, it starts with "You're not going to like what I have to say"... and just went downhill from there... it was a total attack, and to me, unessessary for her to read that to me! Especially when I'm in my condition & under the stress I am. Total selfish in her adjenda. Not giving a shit about my well-being. She doesn't have any faith in me at all that I can do anything on my own... and blah, blah, blah (which just gets worse). Whatever happens from this point out in my life, my view of her will be changed forever. Yes, it was that bad. I'll be better off if I avoid talking to her. Well, enough of me... my hormones are kickin today along with the dissapopintment/sadness from mom. I can't keep a thought in my head, I'm just all over the place. Crazy stuff! Never been thru these hormonal things before! A trip to say the least. I'm also starting to look at things I can do over the internet to make money... I need to find a way to make $ too! But I do have good news... I just saved a bunch...j/k ..LOL no, really, good news is It's 420! And God do I need it!! TTFN


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Jonathan Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com> Sun, Jan 29, 2006 at 4:31 PM
To: Kelley Kowalik <kelleytc20@sbcglobal.net >
sry too hear that, and happy 4:20!! Sry i didn't chat with ya the last couplae of days but, i haven't been in a chatty mood, sick in all! take care of your self, ttfn

Kelley K
Mon, Apr 3, 2006 at 2:15 PM
To: Jon Williams <almightyjom@gmail.com>
Hi,
I'm sending you this for a couple reasons...
First, I want you to know that I'm not interested in a relationship with you. You seemed to have thought that one of the last times we talked. I'm just not attracted to you that way anymore.. you have shown me and told me that that's not what you want and really, you have offered me nothing of yourself (you started to in the beginning and since then you've pulled back, for whatever your reasons, & you've stayed there), so, please just know that a relationship with someone who doesn't want to offer me anything of themselves other than sex occasionally is not attractive to me. That's not what I want anymore. One of the reasons that I've been wanting you to come over is so I can talk to you about the baby stuff... But I figured that it would be best for me to ask you here so you can have time to think about it before hand. It doesn't matter how you decide to answer me- on the phone, in person, here online... that part isn't important. I need to plan things for this baby, so I would like to know if or how you'd like to be involved. I have been offering you information about the baby, but I'm not going to do that anymore unless you ask me. As far as the birth of the baby, I wasn't counting on you being there, just because you haven't said anything to me about wanting to, nor have you been supportive of me so far in this pregnancy... and by you not showing me or asking me about it, I have to assume that you don't really care to know, so you need to let me know if you feel differently about that. I know, you have said "Of course I care Kelley" but I can't tell & your lack of interest shows me otherwise. Also, HOW or DO you plan on being involved with this child after birth? Do you plan on being helpful and supportive (not talking financially) to me and the child when he is born? These are a few things I need to know. I need to have a plan in place & I won't assume anything from you & when you don't give me answers or responses- I have to take that as an answer in itself. I want things to go as well as possible with this little guys birth and life, so, if you could please get back to me and let me know how you feel about all this and give me some of these answers that would help.. and if you don't want to be involved in this baby's life, I need to know that too. This isn't about me & you... it's about a child's life. So, if you do want to have something to do with this baby, than you'll have to tell me, and if that's the case then I would also like to get along as best as possible, for our own sake and the baby's (this I know I have said to you in the beginning of my pregnancy), but it's important for the child to grow up in a healthy environment with loving parents.
Thanks Jon,
Kelley
p.s. I do care about you.. you are my baby's daddy.

Katey
Sat, Apr 29, 2006 at 2:37 AM
To: almightyjom@gmail.com
I just wanted to share the comment I left on Kelleys blog in case she deletes it. I don't want any misunderstandings later... I wasn't gonna but I had enough... please don't be upset with me. I only did it becuz my heart hurt for their judgment of you, and I hope you know I only said what I said becuz I love you, I believe in you and your ability to not only be a good parent but a wonderful human being.
*deep breath*
Every single person who picks up a gun knows exactly what it can do, KILL! Every single child that was shot at school, was a target or in the way of one, and those guns did not fire themselves! We are each responsible for the decisions we make. My father did not have to teach me that it was wrong to kill, I felt that in my heart. Jon made extremely valid points. We still hunt and eat our kill around here,(OMG We actually still fish too) I prefer the birds, but I do eat venison... not all meat comes from a freakin' grocery store. And no it wasn't legal for him to bring a gun to school, but I have met his mother, and with her brand of parenting, and his heart, the only danger was dying of laughter at his Clint Eastwood impression. I swear to God, You make shitty comments like he personally holds the blame for guns in school, and Warlock with his quick fingers and retarded opinion even goes as far as to put him down for spelling errors then makes grammatical ones of his own. WHATEVER! You can Call Jon immature, you can say his parents were shitty but the fact is... he never shot anybody! You make disparaging remarks about a teacher who inspired him and whom he respected almost as much as his mother, and your comments have even offended me. My father took me out to the dump and taught me to shoot a 22 when I was just 10 yrs. old. Everytime he took me out there I learned responsibility, and how to defend myself should I ever be attacked. There were 4 of us kids, and we had guns in our house, even a sawed off double barrel shotgun, that was totally illegal, and not one time did anyone get hurt by anyone of them. O except the BB gun my brother shot himself behind the ear with. He was wrong, it WAS loaded
Is it fucked up that kids bring guns to school and kill eachother? People, it's fucked up that people kill people period... no matter what age they are. You can talk about gun locks, and shooting ranges... but when I'm out here in the woods by myself, and someone breaks in and wants to rape or kill me... I damn sure don't wanna grope in the dark to unlock 2 fuckin' locks to be able to defend myself. I believe the quote goes "Law abiding citizens do not need laws to tell them how to behave, and the criminals will find a way around them." And as far as Jon being a good parent... I'd put money on it, I've seen him be a parent. Kelley you of all people know Jon, you know of his smile and his heart or you wouldn't be carrying his child, he laughed becuz it is his nature, and he said what he said becuz it's the truth. No it prolly wasn't a good idea for him to take a gun to school... Shit Happens... I sincerely hope you atleast set these men straight in private, since you seem unwilling to publicly defend the father of your child.
What's lacking and the cause of this problem is a lack of respect, and a selfish mindset... which is precisely what drove most of these comments. Parents treat their children like kids, they dont accept them for who they are and teach them how to use their strengths. Instead of addressing the important stuff, like how to effectively deal with the bully at school, they'll spend all their time bloggin' about the kids who carry guns to school, and wonder why their child feels the need to do exactly that. Perhaps no one respected him enough to REALLY listen. Kinda like y'all did to Jon there.
Jonathan Williams
Sat, Apr 29, 2006 at 11:30 AM
To: Katey
I Love you!!!