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Matilda77 wrote:

So, after 2.5 weeks of prodding SIL to clean her room, even helping her organize all her clothes, I finally broke down and did it myself last night. Even with breaking it down in to specific small tasks, she was getting n-o-w-h-e-r-e. Literally had all day yesterday and did nothing. So I said f**k it after she went to work, and just started gutting it. The no food rule? I got a file folder box FULL of it, in various stages of decay. In her pillowcase, in between the mattress and box spring. Her schoolbag, which hadn't been opened since May, was FULL of food. So gross. It took 2.5 hours for me to do what she hasn't been able to do in a year and a half. I'm seriously considering boxing it all up and sending everything back to her parents and she can stay there on breaks. Don't want to live there? Then stay in school. Get an apartment next year, live in filth all you want and you don't have to come home at all. J bought her a brand new laptop that comes today, we had a big party for her on Friday. She's good at her job/s, so I know she can follow directions, just chooses not to at home. I'm so done...

edogxxx wrote:

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Sounds like a hoarder in the making. Perhaps there's an underlying psychological issue? Have you considered getting her into counseling? Try to nip this in the bud early enough.

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edogxxx wrote:

<quoted text>load up my bed with pillows.

Matilda77 wrote:

She's good at her job/s, so I know she can follow directions, just chooses not to at home. I'm so done...

Sublime1 wrote:

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YEah, that is a total woman thing.
That's one thing Bambi and I don't see eye to eye on. I hate all those little pillows. She has 6 color coordinated little pillows for our bed and she has a whole bunch for the couches.
I just toss them on the floor. They are worthless. If I want a pillow, I want a real pillow ... not a pillow that is sized for a chihuahua.

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Stina wrote:

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That's hatred and bigotry. And what if the son DID turn out to be gay? What then?

RedheadwGlasses wrote:

Plus, I don't make the bed.

Matilda77 wrote:

So, after 2.5 weeks of prodding SIL to clean her room, even helping her organize all her clothes, I finally broke down and did it myself last night. Even with breaking it down in to specific small tasks, she was getting n-o-w-h-e-r-e. Literally had all day yesterday and did nothing. So I said f**k it after she went to work, and just started gutting it. The no food rule? I got a file folder box FULL of it, in various stages of decay. In her pillowcase, in between the mattress and box spring. Her schoolbag, which hadn't been opened since May, was FULL of food. So gross. It took 2.5 hours for me to do what she hasn't been able to do in a year and a half. I'm seriously considering boxing it all up and sending everything back to her parents and she can stay there on breaks. Don't want to live there? Then stay in school. Get an apartment next year, live in filth all you want and you don't have to come home at all. J bought her a brand new laptop that comes today, we had a big party for her on Friday. She's good at her job/s, so I know she can follow directions, just chooses not to at home. I'm so done...

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Mimi Seattle wrote:

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It's not that Grandma was telling the family or her friends. By virtue of the way she did it, by tagging pictures on FB the info got sent over to the parents' friends. It is the parents' right to tell their own friends when and how they want to, not Grandma's. Those people aren't the grandmother's friends.
Yeah, yeah, yeah FB settings and all that but who would have thought Grandma would be tagging pics a couple hours after the birth. If they expected her to, I could see them putting it in place beforehand, but really, why couldn't Grandma just tell her OWN friends and leave the notification of the parents' friends to...the parents?
In the old says (pre-social networking) this would have been the same if Grandma got the parents' rolodexes and started calling all of the parents' friends to spread the news. NOT.HER.PLACE.

RACE wrote:

So what? Being a member of the clan is not something that most of us would endorse, but they have thousands of members, and while you may think that bringing the son to a meeting is teaching hatred, it is not illegal, so why should the father have his visitation cut off curtailed or monitored because he does?
Just because YOU disagree?
And the kid wont become gay if he just chews his fingernails and develops strong wrists.
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Matilda77 wrote:

I'm with the ladies on this whole birth announcement thing. It's exactly the kind of thing my MIL would do. She re-posts my pics all the time. Hey, if I wanted YOUR friends to see a picture of me playing hockey, I'd post it on YOUR wall, but I didn't, did I? J thinks it's stupid that I get annoyed by that. I guess once I put pics out there, anybody I'm friends with could do that, though.

Matilda77 wrote:

So, after 2.5 weeks of prodding SIL to clean her room, even helping her organize all her clothes, I finally broke down and did it myself last night. Even with breaking it down in to specific small tasks, she was getting n-o-w-h-e-r-e. Literally had all day yesterday and did nothing. So I said f**k it after she went to work, and just started gutting it. The no food rule? I got a file folder box FULL of it, in various stages of decay. In her pillowcase, in between the mattress and box spring. Her schoolbag, which hadn't been opened since May, was FULL of food. So gross. It took 2.5 hours for me to do what she hasn't been able to do in a year and a half. I'm seriously considering boxing it all up and sending everything back to her parents and she can stay there on breaks. Don't want to live there? Then stay in school. Get an apartment next year, live in filth all you want and you don't have to come home at all. J bought her a brand new laptop that comes today, we had a big party for her on Friday. She's good at her job/s, so I know she can follow directions, just chooses not to at home. I'm so done...

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cycle003 wrote:

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First of all, I see two different arguments/cases in this discussion. One is regarding the use of FB, which can spill over into the parents' friends. This case is new kind of problem, but what I'm getting from most of the arguments here is that the problem is not with using FB but that grandma made the announcement at all. I'm hearing (well, reading) that people are opposed to grandma making any announcement at all. To me, these represent different arguments to be considered separately. Most of my posts on this are not from the FB standpoint but are directed generally at the sharing of the news.
If my mom started calling my friends for any reason other than my death, I'd probably be annoyed.
However, we're talking about FB here. I don't do FB. I likely never will unless it's a sacrifice I have to make to parent my child.*These* are the kind of reasons I don't do FB. I don't really have any sympathy for someone who uses FB, links all their friends, family and 700 other "friends" and gets upset that they are linked. Duh! What do you think is gonna happen when you join a social network dedicated to openly sharing and exposing the details of your life AND linking those details to everyone else around you? If you don't want things your mother has to say showing to your friends, then don't let it happen. The (grand)mother didn't dig through their contact list. They linked the mother to their contacts.
Like I said, I think these are separate issues. I might have a slightly different opinion about FB etiquette, but like I said, I'm considering this more from the sharing of news standpoint. Still, I mostly blame anyone on FB for information spillage on FB.

cycle003 wrote:

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Now,*THAT'S* weird.

squishymama wrote:

Am I the only one a little sad that Phyllis Diller died?
Yeah, yeah, I know Tonka. You don't know who she is.
:D

Sublime1 wrote:

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YEah, that is a total woman thing.
That's one thing Bambi and I don't see eye to eye on. I hate all those little pillows. She has 6 color coordinated little pillows for our bed and she has a whole bunch for the couches.
I just toss them on the floor. They are worthless. If I want a pillow, I want a real pillow ... not a pillow that is sized for a chihuahua.

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RedheadwGlasses wrote:

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MIL's tagging of the photos, thus having her "the baby has been born, here's his name and other details" posts show up in the parents' FB walls, IS akin to MIL taking parents' rolodex and calling their friends with the news.

NWmoon wrote:

<quoted text>No, but at least she had a good long run.
I saw her at Magic Mountain when I was living close to it. She had a grand piano out on stage and played some lovely music for us along with the stand up. Just a class act.
I miss her stuff.
Although I wonder, now that she's died, if Playboy will publish the shoot they did of her when she was young. Saw a sampling on an old Bob Costas late night show, and dudes would be shocked. Lady was stacked.