Is Phone Sex Really Cheating?

It is no more cheating than looking at pornography. I suppose it just depends on how secure you are in your relationship and how old fashioned your relationship ideals are for now. All I know, if it can get my husband going, is that I am all for it. I don't consider it cheating if it can't give me herpes.

Bo Nurr wrote:

Let's take it a step further and say a guy and qirl from different states are webcamming nude and masturbating while saying what they would do to eachother in person. Would that be considered cheating?

Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner doing either the phone sex or webcamming.
It stands to reason that the things we fantasize about most will be our biggest turn on, so what if your partner decides that this other chic is something pretty hot...it's gonna be her he wants and not really you now. Say they get an opportunity at all in future to meet? What would stop them from this?
If my guy wants to watch porn then fine, as long as no real personal experiences occur with a real woman who's very much turned on [obviously] by him too.
Ok so I'm the jealous type but I know all too well how one thing leads to another.

With suppressed phone number I had phone sex several times. My dear doesn´t know. But this isn´t necessary. I never would have sex with another male.

During the chat we both masturbated until orgasm. It was very satisfying with the exception of a married lecher, who came after about 3 minutes.

Self stimulation, while chatting anonymously, is no cheating, but an advanced kind of solo sex.
Though we told each other about our sex lifes and how we were masturbating, I never had the feeling of cheating my beloved one. It is very similar to watching porn and rub the little imp in the bush.

No it is not cheating. Well to any person that is not the insane jealous type or a control freak.

However, phone sex can be quite expensive. It is legitimate for a wife or girlfriend to complain about outrageously expensive phone bills.

The best answer is 'It depends.' Research the subject a little on marriagebuilders.com . You'll learn that an extra-marrital afair can be almost anything that takes a person's attention away from their spouse. To me the biggest paradigm shift was when I learned that it is the estranged spouse who defines the activity as an extra-marrital afair.

If the spouse is ok with the phone sex then it's fine. However if the spouse feels cheated on then it is an extra-marrital afair that you should stop imediately and work hard at making up for it.

If you feel you have to keep your phone sex life secret it's because you also feel that it's wrong. How would you feel if your spouse was doing the same thing and keeping naughty secrets from you?

no girl anymore wrote:

With suppressed phone number I had phone sex several times. My dear doesn´t know. But this isn´t necessary. I never would have sex with another male.
During the chat we both masturbated until orgasm. It was very satisfying with the exception of a married lecher, who came after about 3 minutes.
Self stimulation, while chatting anonymously, is no cheating, but an advanced kind of solo sex.
Though we told each other about our sex lifes and how we were masturbating, I never had the feeling of cheating my beloved one. It is very similar to watching porn and rub the little imp in the bush.

So, would you tell your partner that you were having phone sex with another? How would they feel about that because if for any reason they don't agree with your conduct then it's still cheating in their eyes even if you think it's ok.

RealityDealer wrote:

No it is not cheating. Well to any person that is not the insane jealous type or a control freak.
However, phone sex can be quite expensive. It is legitimate for a wife or girlfriend to complain about outrageously expensive phone bills.

Thought we were talking about random women/men not the ones who are getting paid.

P-S-S wrote:

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Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with my partner doing either the phone sex or webcamming.
It stands to reason that the things we fantasize about most will be our biggest turn on, so what if your partner decides that this other chic is something pretty hot...it's gonna be her he wants and not really you now. Say they get an opportunity at all in future to meet? What would stop them from this?
If my guy wants to watch porn then fine, as long as no real personal experiences occur with a real woman who's very much turned on [obviously] by him too.
Ok so I'm the jealous type but I know all too well how one thing leads to another.

But what if your partner played doctor with the girl next door. I mean kids tend to do that while playing in the sandbox..........

Queue wrote:

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But what if your partner played doctor with the girl next door. I mean kids tend to do that while playing in the sandbox..........

LOL! He's only to play doctor with me unless he thinks it's cool for me to play doctor with the boy down the block :D
Fair is fair after all.

I think its cheating, a good healthy relationship has an emotional sexual compatibility. If your thoughts are on someone else real, phone or whatever its a form of cheating. I don't think it has squat to do with jealousy, why if you love someone do you need to jack off to someone else? It's just my opinion.

Sarah wrote:

I think its cheating, a good healthy relationship has an emotional sexual compatibility. If your thoughts are on someone else real, phone or whatever its a form of cheating. I don't think it has squat to do with jealousy, why if you love someone do you need to jack off to someone else? It's just my opinion.

How far from the twin cites are you???

P-S-S wrote:

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LOL! He's only to play doctor with me unless he thinks it's cool for me to play doctor with the boy down the block :D
Fair is fair after all.

And remember - always share..........

Queue wrote:

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But what if your partner played doctor with the girl next door. I mean kids tend to do that while playing in the sandbox..........

Are we not all mature enough to recognize the significant difference between innocent children playing doctor and knowledgeable adults doing it? The former is exploring - learning about life, the latter is simply a trist.

JussMe wrote:

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Are we not all mature enough to recognize the significant difference between innocent children playing doctor and knowledgeable adults doing it? The former is exploring - learning about life, the latter is simply a trist.

It's an inside joke between P-S-S and the Q. You don't understand.

no girl anymore wrote:

With suppressed phone number I had phone sex several times. My dear doesn´t know. But this isn´t necessary. I never would have sex with another male.
During the chat we both masturbated until orgasm. It was very satisfying with the exception of a married lecher, who came after about 3 minutes.
Self stimulation, while chatting anonymously, is no cheating, but an advanced kind of solo sex.
Though we told each other about our sex lifes and how we were masturbating, I never had the feeling of cheating my beloved one. It is very similar to watching porn and rub the little imp in the bush.

I've had many experiences like you as well. Most of the women were married, as am I. As long as both parties understand the limits, and maintain discretion, it can be LOTS of un.

Sarah wrote:

I think its cheating, a good healthy relationship has an emotional sexual compatibility. If your thoughts are on someone else real, phone or whatever its a form of cheating. I don't think it has squat to do with jealousy, why if you love someone do you need to jack off to someone else? It's just my opinion.

I had a friend who lived near Houston, MN....last name was Miller.

patricialynn wrote:

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I had a friend who lived near Houston, MN....last name was Miller.

Most of my "friends" lived pretty far away. I guess it kept things safe that way - no chance of trying to hook-up in person.

P-S-S wrote:

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LOL! He's only to play doctor with me unless he thinks it's cool for me to play doctor with the boy down the block :D
Fair is fair after all.

(Thinking about moving to "down the block")

Queue wrote:

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And remember - always share..........

Oh yes of course, I'm a good girl and know my manners :D

Several experiences wrote:

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(Thinking about moving to "down the block")

lol, cute ;)