What attracted you to your partner?

Think for a Change wrote:

I don't really know for sure. I first visited Thailand to study Buddhism when I was 19, and then I went back several times as a tourist. I never gave thought to marrying a Thai (Or asian) woman at all, but then I met my current Thai wife when she was studying for her MBA in Atlanta and things just slowly happened. Actually we were only casual friends for 2 or so years before we got married, and I never even gave thought to marrying her. It wasn't like we fell madly in love with each other or anything, but again, it was like the relationship slowly evolved and took on a life of its own. We were both physically attractive and financially secure, so even to this day I find it hard to explain how we ended up getting married.

Free Spirited wrote:

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That's beautiful. And you meet each other half way on things? I myself was interrested in Buda and Karma and firmly believe what goes around comes around. It's nice to have someone that you feel secure around and if the love never dies, it can be real magical.

scout wrote:

Pure sexy, nothing more.
I was to blinded/stupid to see, at the time, her extreme level of selfishness.
I was blind for years, but as she aged, the sex drive went down, and then I saw her real personality take root, as her sex hormones failed.
My dad failed to warn me, and he knew.

Free Spirited wrote:

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That's beautiful. And you meet each other half way on things? I myself was interrested in Buda and Karma and firmly believe what goes around comes around. It's nice to have someone that you feel secure around and if the love never dies, it can be real magical.

cliche_excuses wrote:

How humble and honest he is and was. He didn't hide the fact that he had 3 daughters right from the start. I had never been married or had children. He never talked about income nor did I ask. Our first date was memorable. And it's been 25 years and we're still very much in love. He's a great husband, friend, dad, and provider. I have a very deep respect for him. We had 2 children of our own, all whom have grown up to be well rounded, productive young adults. It's all about knowing one another, not your pocket books. You can work for things together and meet your goals.

Free Spirited wrote:

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Selfishness is a deadly disease that leaves one alone and miserable.

scout wrote:

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Good point, it is a disease. However, the wife is not alone, she has me.
I take vows most seriously.
What happens with the female mind as it descends into mental aging dementia is they abandon their foundational love (the husband) for frivolous worldly stuff: shop till ya drop.
The major reason our political gangstas and their ruling invisible elite empowered females during the last century was simply to increase the power of the above insanity on a cultural scale.
There is big money/profit in a disease/Satanic based economy. Or, more profit in sick masses. Or, create a market of diseased, and the money will come.
Satan is most thorough.

Free Spirited wrote:

Well, I was invited out with my sister and her husband and he was with them. We went to a bar (not to drink, but to dance. I don't drink but i sure like to dance.) And he asked me to dance. He is 45 and I will be 30 on the 17th. I knew he was older but the more we talked, the more we had in common. We hit it off almost right away.
I am happy. We never go to bed angry. We respect each other and he never treats me like the house maid. Not like my ex. His ex wife cheated on him so we had a few trust issues at first, but we worked through them and we have a son together. A couple weeks after I had him I ended up back in the hospital almost bleeding to death. I was out of it for 3 days. He never left my side.

cliche_excuses wrote:

How humble and honest he is and was. He didn't hide the fact that he had 3 daughters right from the start. I had never been married or had children. He never talked about income nor did I ask. Our first date was memorable. And it's been 25 years and we're still very much in love. He's a great husband, friend, dad, and provider. I have a very deep respect for him. We had 2 children of our own, all whom have grown up to be well rounded, productive young adults. It's all about knowing one another, not your pocket books. You can work for things together and meet your goals.

Free Spirited wrote:

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That is so true. Right now we don't have much but Im not a material girl so as long as we are together that's all that counts.

Free Spirited wrote:

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That is good that you are sticking with her. Helping her. I take vows most seriously myself. I am on my second marriage but the first was loveless, well, I loved him and he loved his truck.
But my second marriage is going on 6 years and we are happy. We talk through our disagreements instead of yelling and we hardly ever fight. We agree about most everything. He is truely my soul mate I believe. Though there is the age difference but to us, it is just a number on a piece of paper. I will be 30 he will be 45 in Sept. So it's not that much of a difference. We have so much in common that it was like we were meant for each other. And he feels the same way. He always tells me he is a lucky man, but I think I am the lucky one.

KissandTell wrote:

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You're lucky "cliche_excuses". Congratulations for a happy marriage. Give my regards to your beloved husband and children and all the best!!!