Why men hurt the good women and love the bad ones?

Wtf is love??? LOVE MADE ME STAND BY A MAN SIDE WHO VERBALLY ABUSED ME, USED ME, LIED TO ME GAVE ME AN STD WEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS BABY, TO ME I,LOOK LIKE JAWANNA MANN (Although I kno im BEAUTIFUL) & he said SO WAT IM INTITLED TO MY OWN OPINION LOL,A,MAN WHO TOOK ME IN JUST TO PUT ME OUT WITH HIS CHILD TWICE, TALK BAD ABT ME TO PPL, DIDNT HELP ME TAKE CARE OF HIS CHILD ,AS WELL AS MADE MY BBY.THE OUTCAST TO THE OTHER 3 kIDS, SHE NEVER WILL KNO HER FAMILY, MY HEART HURTS, AND JUST A STUPID AS YALL MITE SAY I AM THATS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL, VERY DUMB, AND I SEE THIS SHYT HAPPEN EVERYDAY BUT TO PLAY A ROLE IN BECOMING A VICTIM SUCKS.... MY LIFE WAS FINE UP UNTIL THAN, I LOVE MY MOM AND THIS MAN SHOWED NO EMOTION FOR ME.AT ALL .. IM HURT WHO THE FUCK IS IT TO BLAME .... ME I BLAME MYSELF... HE JUST PLAYED A MAJOR PART IN MAKIN IT WAT IT WAS.... IT TIME TO MOVE ON... IT THE FIRST OF THE MTH AND I HAVE TO GET MY BELONGINS FROM THE RESIDENCE THT HES THROWIN ME OUT OF BY THE 4 , I GOTTA LIVE WITH THIS SHIT FOREVER!!!! WISE PEOPLE I NEED UR ADVICE ON HOW TO NOT BE HURT.... IM MOVIN ON ALREADY

I think because the nice ones might be boring and not challenging.

EXP: Jennifer Aniston, Keira Knightley, Frieda Pinto have the nice girl image

The bad ones are just bad.

EXP: Jennifer Lopez, Angelina Jolie, Eva Mendes

Just like the token: Nice guys finish last. So do girls. Nice girls finish last.

the common mistake is that the men sometimes like stylish girls, who dance and go to parties and they don't like nice and shy women. but one day the men that the stylish women didn't like them they were just having fun or even if they do get married, the stylish women's attitude is different.
this problems don't occur before but even after the marriage. i have seen my dad he may be a good husband for mum but for me they are rubbish dad. i feel sorry for what think for them when i remeber the past when they were different still wrong is wrong.
they don't about other's choices and they do force me. i have been forgetting a lot but this time i won't.i don't if i won't to tell my depressing story. my dad will buy palace if i ask him to but money is not the only thing humans need. he don't do wrong thimgs accidently or in anger they actually do by themselves. i think they hate me BUT MY POOR BROTHER HAS BEEN AGE 3 he has beaten hundreds of time for nothing!!!!!!! i swear on my life. they don't do anything when ny brother and sisters are doing something wrong. still my brothers loves hius dad even after being beaten. when he weed in his pyjamas because my dad didn't take him to toilet even when my mum told them to. then they told let my mum shout at my brother because they can do anythiing they for no reason but other can't speak for good thing.
ONCE THEY CAME BACK AFTER 6 HOURS from guests and said it doesn't matter at all!!!

Gems are buried and you must dig. I speak for both sides when I say this; If you have a good one and you're not measuring up, if you can see the sadness in their face, and if you can observe thier evolution of becoming someone else because of sad you make them, let them go! If you can't appriciate what you have, than you don't deserve it. You should step it up, or get the hell out of thier way because they are out of your leauge and there are so many other people who would kill to be loved the way they love you. If you're a catch and you are in a situation that makes you feel bad, try to see what's broken first, asess and decide. If your worth is not recognized that run for your frikin life!!!!!!!!!! It's not worth it.

This reply is coming yeaarrrs later, and I'm not sure you'll ever read this, but THANK YOU. These words came at a time when I needed it most, after spending over a year "loving" someone who could care less about me. I would sit and play everything over in my head, blaming myself for him leaving. This made me realize he left b/c of who he is, not b/c of what I wasn't. I was good to him, and he didn't appreciate it. I realize I have no reason to blame myself...what's done is done, and it's for the best.

no love wrote:

i dont understand why would he hurt me like that and he told me that he did not mean to hurt me .and the funny thing he told me that he was not ready for a kid when i wanted to have a kid.I'm hurting so bad i dont know what to do.

Hi
I know how u feel my exs just left me because he doesn't want kids and anything I'm just a little kid to him

I have been talking to this guy for months now and he told me that once we met up we would see how things go and work on a relationship. We live in different states so we only communicate through texts or over the phone and things were going really well but i recently found out that he has now has a gf and i asked him about it and he admits it like its no big deal but to me its very disappointing because we have been planning to get together for seven months and he decides to ditch me for some girl he just met that lives in the same state as him. It really sucks and i thought that he was an amazing good guy but he broke mi heart and he hasnt even tried to contact me or apologize or anything. I dont know what to do. Any advice from anyone is welcome

i dont understand my man.. i have been going out with him for 7 years already. we have a 2 year old baby.. i think hes bipolar.. one day he loves me to death. the next day, hes in a bad mood and tell me that im like a piece of shit that i cant give him my ass.. hes really disrespectfullllll... he used to insult me.. tell me that im a piece of shit. that i was a bitch.. an asshole.. stupid.. the worse things ever.. i forgave him.. but he just started doing that again. i dont know what else to do. sometimes i feel i dont love him anymore. because when he comes to my house during the weekends, i dont even get happy like i used to.. sometimes i feel that i take shit from him is cuz im afraid of having another relationship and not having a good man.. im afraid of having sex with someone else.. im afraid of confronting the real world as a single mommy.. and i dont know if i really need therapy. because he has hurt me so much, and treated me like shit and im still wt him.. help please?

Tay wrote:

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Hi
I know how u feel my exs just left me because he doesn't want kids and anything I'm just a little kid to him

you know what?> the was the best thing he could ever done.. you know why? because i have been going out wt my man for 7 years.. the first 4 years were perfect, but when i got pregnant 3 years ago... he deff changed.. he started to verbally abuse me.. he doesnt care about my baby.. we are still together and i dont even know why. he doesnt give a f*** about his baby. so, if this guy did this to u. believe me, is the best thing ever. it hurts i know. but it would of been worse. if you would of had kids and seeing that hes an ass**** careless and not giving a damn about ur baby. that will hurt even more. that ur man ( ur babys father) is been such an as**** towards the baby, not caring about him, treating you like s*** and regretting every single day for having that baby.. i love my kid to death. but, if i would have known, this dirt was going to be like that. i wouldnt have gotten pregnant, because my kid is amazing and he deserves a better like and a father that would love him and care about him.. you lost nothing.

i meant a better life* tay

ChrisJohn Paraclete wrote:

do not GIVE (yourself) to a man. he will trample on you.
give (OF) yourself to him first.
then you will be able to tell if he (sees) your heart, or just (wants) your body.
you only have yourself to blame.
if it starts with sex, it's just lust.
a good man will worship a virgin.
a bad man will go to the next easy.

Great advice. best piece of advice on the topic.

I thought women are the ones who love bad guys and walk over and hurt the feelings of good guys, but you are saying man do that. Hey that explains why men and women go for each other, they both got a taste for the bad.
I guess it is just the human nature, there is good and bad man and women everywhere and the oposites attract each other as a rule of physics.
There are man who go for women just for their body, and women who use man as a cash cow to extort money out of them and I don't mean you are one them.
Everything must be seen from as many angles as possible for a coherent analysis.