Why men hurt the good women and love the bad ones?

that man was a loser and you will find someone better.

do not GIVE (yourself) to a man. he will trample on you.
give (OF) yourself to him first.

then you will be able to tell if he (sees) your heart, or just (wants) your body.
you only have yourself to blame.

if it starts with sex, it's just lust.

a good man will worship a virgin.
a bad man will go to the next easy.

Maybe becaues they cheat with the bad ones while dating the good ones,it happens sometimes, I would alawys get jealous of the guys I use to date,one of the guys got married,and had 2 kids. Just be careful

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1yr 8months relationship. I gave my all to the relationship, but it was never good enough. He always though i was cheating on him. He would tell me that i was too good to him, and that meant that i was doing something wrong behind his back. But the truth is that i love him so much that it felt wrong to even look at another guy. Maybe i was too good with him, i guess he needs a girl to treat him like crap.

sorry about the break up it happened to me 5 years ago.

I've reached the sad conclusion that men don't want women who treat them well. My boyfriend just dumped me and all I ever did was do my best to be understanding, supportive and loving. I wasn't clingy, led my own life independently and didn't expect him to sort out my problems. He claimed to care about me very much but it turns out he wanted the perfect woman, the kind who never makes mistakes. He made so many and I always listened to him and understood his situation and never judged him harshly. I made one little mistake (didn't cheat on him or anything remotely like that, it really was something small) and he decides that's a good reason to dump, all the while saying he still cares about me. Well I've had it. No more being nice to men. From now on I'll use them and lose them.

stormee1, first off do not blame yourself for what this man does or has done to you. I used to think that all men were the same, just as i am sure alot of women do. I have been through 2 bad marriages where both men cheated on me and abused me, not only physically but also mentally. I "thought" i was in love with these guys but then again they had my self asteem was so low that i thought I was meant to be treated that way. After my 2nd break up I did alot of soul searching, spent alot of time by myself on my knees asking God why this happens to me. I also aked HIm to send me someone that would treat me the way a woman should be treated and let me learn what love really is. I was single for 4 years and wondering if I would ever know what love is. I searched everywhere for the right man for me. Every attempt to love failed. Somehow the guys that I chose would bring me back to where I was before. But thankfully I had become stronger as a woman and more independant and I realized early that this was not love. So I would end it quick. I had come to the conclusion that I was not meant to be loved so I stopped searching. Then one day while I was working a man came in and left his number with a coworker of mine asking her to give me his number. He said to tell me if I wasn't involved with anyone he would really like to talk to me. So I called him. I was afraid though. Thinking in the back of my mind that this is just another man that is gonna hurt me. We got together and talked for a while. We have so much in common that it is scary. He has been hurt by women the same way i have been hurt by men and he is just as afraid of relationships. We have been together one year now and it has been the best year of my life. He is such a wonderful man! He treats me with respect and he has shown me what love really is. I have never in my life felt so much like a woman! What I am trying to say is... Don't be fooled by imitation love. If it hurts, it's not love. If both don't feel the same way, it's not love. If he can't be true to only you, it's not love. Pray, ask God to send you the man that is meant for you, then wait on Him. He will answer in His time. Be patient. You are meant to be happy, and one day you will be. DO NOT LET MEN TREAT YOU LIKE ANYTHING LESS THAN YOU EXPECT TO BE TREATED! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!!! YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE!

Every time,my boyfriend would call,out of nowhere,he would yell at me,and we'd start to argue,like married people do,he told me we'd get married,have a van full of kids,yea right,I use to believe everything,he said,but he lied about it all.When I see him I want to tell him the truth,but it'll hurt him,when he,and his wife see me,he says hi,with my name,I don't say anything to him,because if I do we could argue,in front of her,he was a player,he might still be,I always wonder,after every relationship he had,why he came back to me,I don't know if I can forgive him,for what he did behind my back,we hardly talk,anymore

hello,
i'm now the victim of the "lets take a break from eacother" it hurts so much, but i was strong enough to do, or try to do the "No contact Rule" i read in books, plus my emergency therapist told me not to contact him. It still hurts, this guy, i've been so there for him through his breakup and thought he felt something for me. He lead me to believe he did and soon ashe felt better wanted to date other women. I was upset about it we had a fight, then theres the dreaded"lets take a break talk". I secretly hope or wish he'd contact me,even if its been two going on three days, but deep in my heart i know its not right how i've been treated. Any suggestions if he do,when i win the lottery one in a million chances, if he does call. I'm devastated.

Madeleine122 wrote:

hello,
i'm now the victim of the "lets take a break from eacother" it hurts so much, but i was strong enough to do, or try to do the "No contact Rule" i read in books, plus my emergency therapist told me not to contact him. It still hurts, this guy, i've been so there for him through his breakup and thought he felt something for me. He lead me to believe he did and soon ashe felt better wanted to date other women. I was upset about it we had a fight, then theres the dreaded"lets take a break talk". I secretly hope or wish he'd contact me,even if its been two going on three days, but deep in my heart i know its not right how i've been treated. Any suggestions if he do,when i win the lottery one in a million chances, if he does call. I'm devastated.

I know how you feel,you're wish might come true

Betsy Ross wrote:

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Its because of those jerks we have men and women over there dying. While it was never that bad in America of course. The women in America had to fight for their rights. The right to vote..the right to earn decent wages. The rights to have an abusive husband jailed.
Obama is not muslin.

Obama is Muslim. He even attended a Madrassa in Indonesia - a place where the radical Muslims are educated and radicalized.

Obama thinks his silence will make him enigmatic - but one should think rather, what is he trying to hide!

He's a Muslim. Don't forget it.

a blue rose tattoo wrote:

that man was a loser and you will find someone better.

I was in a relationship for 6 years with this Guy that I loved so muched >he planned to marry me and we was having a baby together .I missed carried and he wasn't at the hospital he told me that he was locked up supposly.I called his mohter house and she turned against me and told me to never call her house again. I forgave gave him .we were friends with benefits.I was just hanging out with him the night before last and my mom tell's me the next day that he is having a baby wiht some chick that he only supposly had sex with only 4 times she's six month pregnant and when i asked him he told me that how that the rumor that's going around ,and he told me that he was not going to tell me untin he found out it was realy his .Don't it sound like the piece of the story is missing.

i dont understand why would he hurt me like that and he told me that he did not mean to hurt me .and the funny thing he told me that he was not ready for a kid when i wanted to have a kid.I'm hurting so bad i dont know what to do.

no love,I'm so sorry,if I was in that situation,you are in,I'd talk to him about it,and find out if it's a lie or not.

Men nowadays are just focused on sex and don't see how good they had it. 50% of Americans divorce, but the men that left said 5 years later are no more happy that what they were w/ their original spouse.

Its really sad that men treat women like crap. All men think about is sex and nothing else but sex.

I dont have a boyfriend at the moment, but I am very careful when it comes to men because my fingers have been burnt one to many.

I don't buy any of this nonsense. We men have the real power, and it is up to us to mold our women into the kind of people that we want them to be. Treat a bad woman well, and she will usually become a good woman. Treat a good woman like crap, and she'll usually end up like crap.

It's funny. Women draw these sad conclusions about men and you're wrong. We're not all dicks! In a matter of fact, most of us get the crap kicked out of us just as much as women do. I personally think it's tragic. I am in a relationship that is cold and hard for me at times. Try this on for size. You tell someone how much you love, honor, respect and believe in them. You judge not what they do, you do things for them in the name of just because and be all that a woman would want in a man. As a man I say " You have your path and I have mine. I don't want to change or compete with you, just be yourself and when you come home at the end of the day, let your hair down, I will rub your feet and treat you like the beautiful woman you are." In my world, that gets me a response that pretty much rivals a pat on the head followed by " Oh that's nice." Meanwhile, a good portion of my friends are women and they are always asking me semi-sarcastically why I don't have a brother or if I planned on cloning myself anytime soon. That is, the ones that don't ask me what the hell I'm doing with my current partner. You see, there is no better sex. Bad women hurt good men and bad men hurt good women. It's very push-pull. Gems are buried and you must dig. I speak for both sides when I say this; If you have a good one and you're not measuring up, if you can see the sadness in their face, and if you can observe thier evolution of becoming someone else because of sad you make them, let them go! If you can't appriciate what you have, than you don't deserve it. You should step it up, or get the hell out of thier way because they are out of your leauge and there are so many other people who would kill to be loved the way they love you. If you're a catch and you are in a situation that makes you feel bad, try to see what's broken first, asess and decide. If your worth is not recognized that run for your frikin life!!!!!!!!!! It's not worth it.

Manwondering wrote:

It's funny. Women draw these sad conclusions about men and you're wrong. We're not all dicks! In a matter of fact, most of us get the crap kicked out of us just as much as women do. I personally think it's tragic. I am in a relationship that is cold and hard for me at times. Try this on for size. You tell someone how much you love, honor, respect and believe in them. You judge not what they do, you do things for them in the name of just because and be all that a woman would want in a man. As a man I say " You have your path and I have mine. I don't want to change or compete with you, just be yourself and when you come home at the end of the day, let your hair down, I will rub your feet and treat you like the beautiful woman you are." In my world, that gets me a response that pretty much rivals a pat on the head followed by " Oh that's nice." Meanwhile, a good portion of my friends are women and they are always asking me semi-sarcastically why I don't have a brother or if I planned on cloning myself anytime soon. That is, the ones that don't ask me what the hell I'm doing with my current partner. You see, there is no better sex. Bad women hurt good men and bad men hurt good women. It's very push-pull. Gems are buried and you must dig. I speak for both sides when I say this; If you have a good one and you're not measuring up, if you can see the sadness in their face, and if you can observe thier evolution of becoming someone else because of sad you make them, let them go! If you can't appriciate what you have, than you don't deserve it. You should step it up, or get the hell out of thier way because they are out of your leauge and there are so many other people who would kill to be loved the way they love you. If you're a catch and you are in a situation that makes you feel bad, try to see what's broken first, asess and decide. If your worth is not recognized that run for your frikin life!!!!!!!!!! It's not worth it.

Are you even American?