Middletown woman charged with killing boyfriend

I am the exiwife of Robert Stow,he is the father to my daughter ,whom is very devasted by his unexpected death, as well as i am also.Why was this women coming home at 2 am from? no where good i can imagine. Why didnt she run out of the home? call the police? Why if he was so abusive did she keep going back to him? This man did not deserve to die.

It's still early in the investigation and there are a lot of questions to be answered. Hopefully you can guide your daughter through her grief, she'll need you. As an ex-wife you would know better than anyone the underlying behavior in that relationship. After all, you were able to get out. That's not possible in some abusive relationships.

I send my condolences out to the family of Robert Stowe.. I am the nephew of Carmen Ayala, now vicky you ask why if he was so abusive did she keep going back, and I ask u the same question why did you ?. when your in love with some one who you have a child with you put up with anything just to make it work in this case abuse. Now we know that a man can over power a female especially when she stands only at about 5'3 and fairly petite and non violent, she felt like her life was threatened and did what she had to do to protect herself even though she didnt mean to cause death on the person she loved cared about and had a baby with. One more thing everyone should know she did run out to find help for him..

my condolences go out to the family of robert stowe..iam the niece of carmen ayala now vicky i understandthat you are upset but dont make carmen out to be a monster because she is not she also has a child with robert the relationship she was in was abusive as iam sure you should know that.carmen is not a violent person and never has been and as far as why she didnt get help she did get help for him she didntjust leave him.she loved robert and she would never hurt anyone intentionally.

It is very sad that something bad had to come out of this, but when two people are in love, whether its a loving or abusive relationship they will find away to be together. Iam quite sure these two adults loved each other in there own special way. My condolences go out to both families. Both of these families will suffer a loss.

victor wrote:

I send my condolences out to the family of Robert Stowe.. I am the nephew of Carmen Ayala, now vicky you ask why if he was so abusive did she keep going back, and I ask u the same question why did you ?. when your in love with some one who you have a child with you put up with anything just to make it work in this case abuse. Now we know that a man can over power a female especially when she stands only at about 5'3 and fairly petite and non violent, she felt like her life was threatened and did what she had to do to protect herself even though she didnt mean to cause death on the person she loved cared about and had a baby with. One more thing everyone should know she did run out to find help for him..

Let me tell you something your aunt was no angel either,and as for that baby which i might add got taken away from her by the state as did her others, so she should have got out for the baby if he was so abusive which she was also abusive towards he too, and made that babys life and her own better. He still didnt deserve to die.

mel wrote:

my condolences go out to the family of robert stowe..iam the niece of carmen ayala now vicky i understandthat you are upset but dont make carmen out to be a monster because she is not she also has a child with robert the relationship she was in was abusive as iam sure you should know that.carmen is not a violent person and never has been and as far as why she didnt get help she did get help for him she didntjust leave him.she loved robert and she would never hurt anyone intentionally.

She should have got help sooner as far as im concerned,who knows maybe that would have made a difference.Why didnt she just run out or call the police? He still didnt deserve to die

listen lady you are very silly at a time like this to bring other people kids it to this no one spoke about your kid dont talk about things you know nothing you said what you had to say ... and your upset because we spoke our minds dont be silly grow up

you know nothing ok lady because she did get help no one said this should have happened.

Im done saying whats on my mind.Im not playing this game anymore. The bottom line is she'll get whats coming to her in court. I have said all i want to say at this point its just a very sad thing all around.

iam sure she did not mean to do it

vicky you keep saying he didnt deserve to die well your right nobody deserves to die,the same way no women deserves to get their ass beaten by no man, but everybody has the right to defend themselves in any dangerous situation. she didnt mean for it to happen the way that it did, but it did nobody is perfect acidents do happen

and the why she didn't call for help was because not long ago while my sister was talking on the phone with our sister in-law Robert was drunk and wanted my sister's attention so he just snached the phone of my sister's hand and cutt of the conversation and broke the phone to pieces
that was the reason why she couldn't call for help.. she did tried to help him by applying towels to the wound.. after she just ran out of the house ended up in the hospital asking for help the first security officer she saw she told him about what had happend.. don't be in such a hurry to judge anyone person only GOD can do that
she won't be the only one to be judged. all this could have being avoided if he himself would have gotten help for his addictions, and abusive behavior. is sad to say but is the truth..

sometimes when you're in a dangerous sitution, it's harder to get out then it should be. Everyhing is easier in theory. Regardless of if she loved him or not, I'm guessing he provided some sort of support and security to her. A person can only be abused mentally and physically so much until they snap. It shouldn't matter if she got home at 10p, 12a or 2a, noone deserves to be pushed around and hit because of that. Maybe she procrastinated getting home knowing what was waiting for her. It's a sad story regardless of who is at fault, and should be one more eyeopener to the state and domestic courts that more help is needed to try and get these (mostly women) abuse victims help.

victor wrote:

vicky you keep saying he didnt deserve to die well your right nobody deserves to die,the same way no women deserves to get their **** beaten by no man, but everybody has the right to defend themselves in any dangerous situation. she didnt mean for it to happen the way that it did, but it did nobody is perfect acidents do happen

Your calling this an accident.He didnt trip and fall on a knife,she rose her and and murdered him. Your to funny

Tony wrote:

It is very sad that something bad had to come out of this, but when two people are in love, whether its a loving or abusive relationship they will find away to be together. Iam quite sure these two adults loved each other in there own special way. My condolences go out to both families. Both of these families will suffer a loss.

Thank You

Vicky wrote:

<quoted text>Your calling this an accident.He didnt trip and fall on a knife,she rose her and and murdered him. Your to funny

sry.She rose her hand and murdered him.

Wow, you people all sound very intelligent.

Vicky wrote:

<quoted text>sry.She rose her hand and murdered him.

you are makeing or family out to be the bad ones nomatter what we say u respond with negative remarks we cant change the past.and yes accident do happen u wouldnt know what happen because you were'nt there.dont be so fast to judge

Did somebody drop a bomb full of stupid on Connecticut?