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#4 Mar 26, 2009
The thing that I see is that they do see many Black women in a stereootypical fashion. Or else why is Michelle Obama constantly being villified. There is a thread on this page about a Black women who takes issue with a back hand comment about being pretty for a Black girl and that if she is acceptably pretty then she must be mixed or exotic and not unambigiously Black. Why are Black women automatically labeled unintelligent or don't have decent command of the English language, yet I see Whites who can barely string a whole sentence togther, but the assumption are that Black women only know ebonics or are borderline retarded are lard asses and are lazy prostitutes.

Its simple racism and the fact that they cannot see or relate to us as Human beings. Also women are historically easy targets so its stand to reason that they can easily attack us and not be challeneged by Black men, etc.

Somehow we offend their high flown sensibilities and the only way to discount our humanity is to label us as ugly and sub-human. Thus to me there is no real, logical reason. It simply is what it is--they can not see our humanity therefore it is easier to attack, denigrate, and excoriate with blistering malice and disdain as they would some inatimate object or thing-- an uncomprehensible monster.

Again no other race of women is accorded such **special** treatment.

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#5 Mar 26, 2009
Black women are hated so much because we are so misunderstood yet envied.
A black woman can hold her own when she is being disrespected.
She is quick to let you know that she does not need your help and can make it on her own.
A black woman can make a 30.00 outfit look classy and sophisticated.
A black woman is hated because she is independant, opinionated, and animated.

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#6 Mar 26, 2009
Shaquita wrote:
Seriously, have you ever seen so much blind hate and blatant jealous directed at anyone else? I havn't. Black men are a close second, but even they don't come close to the amount of hate black women put up with every day. Any one have an answer? Trolls, hold your comments until the end.
Give a few examples of the kind of hate black women face that overshadows that of black men. In addition, explain how it hinders their daily existence.
Truth and Justice

Chester, PA

#7 Mar 26, 2009
Who cares?
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#8 Mar 26, 2009
RegalBeauty wrote:
Black women are hated so much because we are so misunderstood yet envied.
A black woman can hold her own when she is being disrespected.
She is quick to let you know that she does not need your help and can make it on her own.
A black woman can make a 30.00 outfit look classy and sophisticated.
A black woman is hated because she is independant, opinionated, and animated.
You should have stopped at black women being envied. Everything else hints at them being vain and egotistical.

“Missing Mickey!!”

Since: Mar 08

St.Louis

#9 Mar 26, 2009
Where is this happening?? On Topix?? TOPIX IS NOT REAL LIFE??? And people do not "hate" black women in real life. This is geting pathetic...

“In the Space Love Demands”

Since: Oct 07

Black Love USA

#10 Mar 26, 2009
busted wrote:
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You should have stopped at black women being envied. Everything else hints at them being vain and egotistical.
People often wonder why so many Black women are "hyper"-defensive, sensitive, and are quick to brag on themselves...

But with so many put downs and lies about there should be no doubt about why.
denita d

Kent, WA

#11 Mar 26, 2009
busted wrote:
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Give a few examples of the kind of hate black women face that overshadows that of black men. In addition, explain how it hinders their daily existence.
We're talking about black women.If you are looking for someone to address your issues,start another thread ,okay.
Truth and Justice

Chester, PA

#12 Mar 26, 2009
Mickey N Ashley wrote:
Where is this happening?? On Topix?? TOPIX IS NOT REAL LIFE??? And people do not "hate" black women in real life. This is geting pathetic...
You ain't NEVER lied. These people on Topix are delusional and need to see a good shrink!

“In the Space Love Demands”

Since: Oct 07

Black Love USA

#13 Mar 26, 2009
Shaquita wrote:
Oh, theres no doubt in my mind that people do hate black women. We all know that.
What I specifically want to know is why.
I think that its beyond any stereotype. People act ignorant, but seldom are they actually stupid enough to believe that the majority of any sort of people are actually sterotypical.
So why all the hate for black women?
If we were as ugly, stupid, pathetic, and as cursed by God as they claim we are, we'd be pitied like mentally challenged people are, not hated.
But we are despised through out the world, and we've been resiliant through it all.
We've taken blows from a double edged sword (racism/sexism) and still we manage to be all that we are.
Why would anyone hate us?
Is it all just jealousy?
When I took psychology courses in college (although that was NOT my major) I learned that people hate what they have put down or hurt. And that the "neediest" people were disliked the most.

This would seem illogical. It makes more sense for people to be more sympathetic towards those that have been hurt or most in need. But science has found that not to be the case.

So where am I going with this? To the average person, including many other Black people, Black women are the lowest on the totem pole. The lovely statisics on marriage, disease, and our image in the media cement this vision.

And Black women have been mistreated.

So if you believe the psychologists' theories on humanity, it stands to reason that we are hated.

The studies that "prove" their theories are:

- tests with "difficult" newborns: people were least likely to pick them up or care for them versus "happy babies"

- studies on bullying: in all the age groups, ethnic groups, etc that they tested people actually disliked the VICTIM more than the BULLY

- studies with sons of abused women: these men actually detested women and blamed part of the abuse on their mothers

And so on and so forth...
Truth and Justice

Chester, PA

#14 Mar 26, 2009
soulflower wrote:
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When I took psychology courses in college (although that was NOT my major) I learned that people hate what they have put down or hurt. And that the "neediest" people were disliked the most.
This would seem illogical. It makes more sense for people to be more sympathetic towards those that have been hurt or most in need. But science has found that not to be the case.
So where am I going with this? To the average person, including many other Black people, Black women are the lowest on the totem pole. The lovely statisics on marriage, disease, and our image in the media cement this vision.
And Black women have been mistreated.
So if you believe the psychologists' theories on humanity, it stands to reason that we are hated.
The studies that "prove" their theories are:
- tests with "difficult" newborns: people were least likely to pick them up or care for them versus "happy babies"
- studies on bullying: in all the age groups, ethnic groups, etc that they tested people actually disliked the VICTIM more than the BULLY
- studies with sons of abused women: these men actually detested women and blamed part of the abuse on their mothers
And so on and so forth...
I would buy this argument if this was 1960. But in 2009, c'mon now? You folks need to get out more.
perfectly black

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#15 Mar 26, 2009
DMO wrote:
You got that right.
No race of women is publicly villified, debased, and humaliated by all races of men like Black women. It is beyond ridiculous. I have never seen hatred spewed at other races of women. Never. In fact the perception, is that Asian women are so perfect, White women are the ideal, Hispanic women are fiesty and have family values, but Black women--we are "sheboons", gorillas, fat, ugly, smelly, nasty, IQ deprived, worthless welfare parasite OOW queens who can't speak proper English and are too mannish and ugly for any men--even Black men suposedly find us offensive and looking for real women who are less of a hassle.
Obviously I don't agree with the odious sentiment, but it pervades the public milieu and not just this toxic place called Topix-I see the disrespect, the disgust and the disbelief that Black women may be diverse and just as interesting like other races of women. I just usally agree with their (especially White men who condescend to us) insanity so that they will go away. However they get some kind of sisck perverse pleasure by telling us how inhuman we are and that becuase we are supposedly a lower life form that we should have either died or or we offended them by continuing the breathe the same air as them.
I just wish that Black women would reach out and connect with each other in a more authentic way instead of tearing each other done in order to look good for Black or White men.
If black women could just learn to master one simple task and then all this hating will cease: Ignore
Stop feeding the hate by replying to it in any way, that simple!

Since: Mar 09

Plainfield, NJ

#16 Mar 26, 2009
BLACK WOMEN AND MEN THINK THAT WHITE PEOPLE OWE THEM EVERYTHING...THAT IS WHAT CREATES FAILURE..IF THEY COULD ONLY UNDERSTAND THAT IF THEY WANT SUCESS, THEY NEED TO DO THE SAME EXACT THINGS WHITE PEOPLE DO. AND THAT IS HARD WORK! NOT LAZINESS AND NOT TO CRY EVERYTIME THEY DON'T GET WHAT THEY WANT AND AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME THAT IT'S PREJUDICE RELATED. AS A PROFESSIONAL, I WORK WITH MANY INTELLIGENT BLACK MEN AND WOMEN THAT DID THE SAME AS ME...WENT TO COLLEGE(EVEN COMMUNITY COLLEGE) AND ARE LEADING WONDERFUL LIVES. I AM PROUD OF THEM BUT NOT THE BLACK PEOPLE THAT ARE FULL OF NOTHING BUT HATE...
Truth and Justice

Chester, PA

#17 Mar 26, 2009
"Some" of you in here need to develop a self-identity.

Since: Jan 09

Tampa Fl.

#18 Mar 26, 2009
OK I feel like it's time for people to start manning the f*ck up and taking responsibility for their actions.

I feel like the negative stigma around black women is true for the most part.

Obviously not the really ridiculous claims like inhuman and inferior, but a lot of it is true.

I grew up in a suburb. I have moved out of home, but I have my own place also in a suburb. I HARDLY EVER see black girls where I live. Its a shame to because I really like to see classy sophisticated black girls. It like something that you don't see everyday.

I work in the GHETTO. I work in financial services. I see TUNS of black women there.

Its safe to say that the majority of black women are in poor ghetto areas.

Everyday at work all I see are the so called false truths. A tun of women who are loud, ghetto, GROSSLY OVERWEIGHT, but still dressed like a whore for some reason, usually cashing about 5 government checks because shes a welfare queen, but for some reason she and all her kids have on air jordans, her beater car has 22 inch rims on it and those cheesy stick on scales, She is wearing enough gold to start her own bank.

They usually commit fraud to get money from the government, because they are to fat and lazy to work, Why work when that's more time they can be on the cock making illegitimate babies.

I KID YOU NOT. I heard a black lady tell another black lady how to get 300 dollars a month per kid from the government. She said you have to claim that your kid has ADD, Get ADD perscriptions filled for six months and then send the reciots to the government and BOOM you are on an assistance program.

im like .........ARE YOU F*UCKING SERIOUS.

Rather than work and take car of your kids, you are going to lie and be a mooch, but they don't care, its like they have no morals, or shame.

anyway.....

Unfortunately that's the majority, and that is the image that people see.

MOST black girls aren't like you all, on the internet responding to blogs and message boards, they are out and up to no good.

Perhaps outreach into these neighborhoods is needed to help these offenders.

-DigitalSymphony
perfectly black

AOL

#19 Mar 26, 2009
Shaquita wrote:
Seriously, have you ever seen so much blind hate and blatant jealous directed at anyone else? I havn't. Black men are a close second, but even they don't come close to the amount of hate black women put up with every day. Any one have an answer? Trolls, hold your comments until the end.
Stop making threads like this that gives more opportunities to hate us. Make threads that uplift us. That is not so hard?
pookie

Chicago, IL

#20 Mar 26, 2009
oh look another black women thread YAAAAWN do you ever get tired of talking about yourselves? seriously yall some lonely ass hoes fo real.
perfectly black

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#21 Mar 26, 2009
Shaquita wrote:
Oh, theres no doubt in my mind that people do hate black women. We all know that.
What I specifically want to know is why.
I think that its beyond any stereotype. People act ignorant, but seldom are they actually stupid enough to believe that the majority of any sort of people are actually sterotypical.
So why all the hate for black women?
If we were as ugly, stupid, pathetic, and as cursed by God as they claim we are, we'd be pitied like mentally challenged people are, not hated.
But we are despised through out the world, and we've been resiliant through it all.
We've taken blows from a double edged sword (racism/sexism) and still we manage to be all that we are.
Why would anyone hate us?
Is it all just jealousy?
Stop being victims and whining. We got to just stop it. It does nothing, but make us look pathetic. Let's for once talk about positive aspect of being a black woman.
perfectly black

AOL

#22 Mar 26, 2009
soulflower wrote:
<quoted text>
When I took psychology courses in college (although that was NOT my major) I learned that people hate what they have put down or hurt. And that the "neediest" people were disliked the most.
This would seem illogical. It makes more sense for people to be more sympathetic towards those that have been hurt or most in need. But science has found that not to be the case.
So where am I going with this? To the average person, including many other Black people, Black women are the lowest on the totem pole. The lovely statisics on marriage, disease, and our image in the media cement this vision.
And Black women have been mistreated.
So if you believe the psychologists' theories on humanity, it stands to reason that we are hated.
The studies that "prove" their theories are:
- tests with "difficult" newborns: people were least likely to pick them up or care for them versus "happy babies"
- studies on bullying: in all the age groups, ethnic groups, etc that they tested people actually disliked the VICTIM more than the BULLY
- studies with sons of abused women: these men actually detested women and blamed part of the abuse on their mothers
And so on and so forth...
Excellent information. If black women could learn to stop the whining, ignore, and move on; all this crap will cease. We are helping to keep the hate alive because we feed it, acting like pathetic victims instead of confident women who are proactive about life. If we hate the image media puts out on us, don't cry about it; get in the media and counteract it. There is nothing in the world stopping us from making positive youtube clips like those who make negative ones. Why are we so inactive, unless we crying all the time about who hate us? Why don't we make threads on black women in history and ignore all detractors? What is stopping us from being champions in all areas of life, but us?

“In the Space Love Demands”

Since: Oct 07

Black Love USA

#23 Mar 26, 2009
Truth and Justice wrote:
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I would buy this argument if this was 1960. But in 2009, c'mon now? You folks need to get out more.
I do "get out". Do not presume to tell me what I see. Already on this thread are several hateful things and then you have the audacity to tell me
what I say isn't true.

My life is quite purposeful and fulfilled. However, needless attacks and unnecessary hatefulness are still directed my way - JUST FOR BEING A BLACK WOMAN.

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