How are us black women not feminine enough?

ABeautifulMemory wrote:

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If a woman is considered masculine just because she has an opinion, then all men who believe that and HATE that should just
be homosexual, because it SHOULDN'T change.
A woman's opinion is needed regularly. Not all, but most women are very sympathetic/empathic in ways that men cannot be. Women are nurturing. Where would men be if they didn't take advice of women to think out situations at times?
Men hardly think. They need us to tell them how to be better for them.
Men grow up hearing opinions from their mothers, and their mothers have the best advice, but sometimes they don't want to listen.
Men sometimes are jealous of babies when women are nurturing them, because some of them are so STUPID and simple-minded.
But if it wasn't for the mothers of those men's children, where would the baby boys of today be?
They wouldn't be anywhere because of men's inability to control their rage. They even want to be treated like babies by their wives!
Woman. Wound. Wo-MEN. Women are DEFINITELY needed.

Haha. Well I wouldn't go as far as to say they're stupid or simple-minded, but yes they need us.

And really, I'm sick of some black men comparing us to non-black women. I don't make those comparisons with them. The world does enough black bashing that we don't need our community engaging in it as well.

One would think black men overall would be more empathetic because of both of our plights. Apparently it's too difficult for some...

For Equality wrote:

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Haha. Well I wouldn't go as far as to say they're stupid or simple-minded, but yes they need us.
And really, I'm sick of some black men comparing us to non-black women. I don't make those comparisons with them. The world does enough black bashing that we don't need our community engaging in it as well.
One would think black men overall would be more empathetic because of both of our plights. Apparently it's too difficult for some...

I agree with you, on the idea that black men should/could be empathic for black women.
There's NO way that we should be compared to women of other races.

And, lol, when I put "stupid" and "simple-minded" I only meant a few... like, maybe a thousand. Out of the possible one billion.
Black should support black, and shouldn't expect black to be anything but what it is. It should be embraced, because it is what we are.
Unfortunately, in some cases it isn't this way though.

Beautiful bw wrote:

<quoted text> LOL you're right on the money about African women! I'm Ethiopian/Arabian/Italian raised in the States though, but I'm in between being agressive & telling a man what I think right on the spot to holding back and not showing signs of anger. lol Its too damn complicated! But I do know if I want a long lasting marriage one day, then I have to let a man be a man & the head of the household. However, the trick is to mary someone that you not only love but respect and look up to. If he's a whimp who's not strong on his word or promises that effects how you seem him and talk to him. That's why I prefer older men. They are wise and know how to protect and lead and that way I won't have to worry or complain a lot because I can count on him to take care of/protect me and the family.

AMEN SISTER!!!

nunyabeezwaxUSA wrote:

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I have certainly seen BW who are more than feminine: Gabrielle Union, the girls on "Girlfriends," Angela Bassett, Cicely Tyson, the list goes on and on.
And then...we have the LOUD MOUTHS with the booty jeans (making their butts stick up to heaven), walking down the street chomping on the Flamin' Hots when they sit down, they SPREAD THEIR LEGS WIDE OPEN LIKE A MAN, use cuss words that would make a sailor blush IN FRONT OF GOD, SENIORS, CHILDREN, and MEN!!!! Yikes!

HA HA HA HA HA LOL!!!!!You are sooooooooooo telling the truth! especially the flaming hots part

You can always tell how feminine a black woman is by how happy her man is.

The happier her black man...the more feminine she is!

I love black women. I've been w/ my current gf for 4 yrs now, and we were having this discussion the other day. She was saying that all men (of different races) compare bw to other women, and bw always seem to come out at the bottom. She was wondering why.

Black women have all different features, of course, like anyone else. The thing is, that black women can have masculine facial features sometimes. that's a turnoff to a man. I've seen BW that I thought were guys. It happens w/ other women as well, but not that often.. BW produce more testosterone than other women, so that may be why. Y'all also produce more estrogen though (giving ya the curves).

As far as being bossy, I'd say that's a reflection of your personalities or your situation. If you're w/ a man whose not being responsible, running around or otherwise, then the guy needs to chewed out. I mean who wants to put up w/ that crap?

Either way, BW can be just as beautiful as any other type of women.

Steve06 wrote:

As far as being bossy, I'd say that's a reflection of your personalities or your situation. If you're w/ a man whose not being responsible, running around or otherwise, then the guy needs to chewed out. I mean who wants to put up w/ that crap?

Now let's not go overboard!!!!!

There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Or this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Or this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Obesity, bad attititude, neck twirlin and being argumentative are turn offs that black women have a lot of. These qualities are associated with non-femininity. Actually black women have a few strikes already.....in most cultures dark skin is considered more masculine and lighter skin is considered more feminine. Long hair is considered more feminine and many black have short hair and opt for weaves instead of caring for their hair to grow it long. Then on top of these strikes, sistas have attitudes, they are argumentative, many are obese and these are just straight up turn offs to any man. Imagine if black men were skinny, whinned and complained all the time and acted emotional like women.....I guarantee women would not find this behavior appealing as it would be considered too feminine.

Frank wrote:

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Now let's not go overboard!!!!!
There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
Or this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch...
Or this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Right. These women all have personality issues. All of them should be single. All of them are the time to whine that men don't want them.

Truth wrote:

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And why do they say the same thing? Because white media brainwashed them to thinking that. Let's have some common sense right quick. Why would a real blk man believe that if he came from a blk women who isn't masculine? Think for a second before you reply. That's not the truth. The truth is we are better looking, have a better shape and are just better looking then any other women so they (other races) see that as competition and a threat and try to make it otherwise. Overlooked by who? Blk boys? Not real blk men. Have you heard the saying real men love blk women and that's for any man of any race. It's just that more guys are weak to the media's perception of blk women. Don't be another victim of that. You don't hear other women of other races saying that because most of them love being told what to do like they are a child, feel as if that's how to keep a man, is weak, a follower and willing to do almost anything to not get into that stereotype. If that's what it take to be seen as feminine then it's just funnier to believe it.

HUH?

steve06 wrote:

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Right. These women all have personality issues. All of them should be single. All of them are the time to whine that men don't want them.

Good point!

QueenofTheNile wrote:

I have heard many people who diss black women say that we are not feminine enough.How is it the way we dress, walk, or talk?What makes us seem unlady like.I've asked many people this question who put us down but they never respond to my post.

They don't respond because it's another stereotype from white people that they can't explain. They just talk, talk, talk to bring blk women down and some blk guys who do it are angry with blk women in their family so they bring the anger outside of the house and have no respect for what they are saying.

You will not get a answer from them because they know they are lying.

HAVING FUN wrote:

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HUH?

Re-read and understand it.

Frank wrote:

You can always tell how feminine a black woman is by how happy her man is.
The happier her black man...the more feminine she is!

You sound like you made that up from a cartoon. Sh!! aint make no sense. Damn you sound studip. You should be ashame

For Equality wrote:

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Haha. Well I wouldn't go as far as to say they're stupid or simple-minded, but yes they need us.
And really, I'm sick of some black men comparing us to non-black women. I don't make those comparisons with them. The world does enough black bashing that we don't need our community engaging in it as well.
One would think black men overall would be more empathetic because of both of our plights. Apparently it's too difficult for some...

Some blk boys not men but blk boys are clueless and alot not all have issues with the blk women at home (fmaily members) which is why they act out in public towards blk women.

Steve06 wrote:

I love black women. I've been w/ my current gf for 4 yrs now, and we were having this discussion the other day. She was saying that all men (of different races) compare bw to other women, and bw always seem to come out at the bottom. She was wondering why.
Black women have all different features, of course, like anyone else. The thing is, that black women can have masculine facial features sometimes. that's a turnoff to a man. I've seen BW that I thought were guys. It happens w/ other women as well, but not that often.. BW produce more testosterone than other women, so that may be why. Y'all also produce more estrogen though (giving ya the curves).
As far as being bossy, I'd say that's a reflection of your personalities or your situation. If you're w/ a man whose not being responsible, running around or otherwise, then the guy needs to chewed out. I mean who wants to put up w/ that crap?
Either way, BW can be just as beautiful as any other type of women.

It sounds like your lying to fit in. How can you love a blk woman but come behind that and say but some etc. Do you not have enough common sense to know that anything negative you say about blk women your wife/girlfriend has to deal with it also? It does not just apply to other blk women. If you ever see a blk women with masculine facial features it’s probably because 50% at the least she is doing the job of both her and the blk man which is affecting her looks. Be for real. Bascially you just said blk women look like men and in other words white girls look like girls. Whatever blk women you dated ought to be cautious with you, sounds like you are on the edge of getting a white girl. A black man wouldn’t respond like that either. Its funny because I see more white girls who look like men or a trans-g. You white you not blk, check this. BW do not produce more testoterone then other women. So did you learn that from the women in your family? Does it apply to them? No it’s not a can it be it’s a is BETTER looking then other women now if you haven’t seen that yet you might wanna check back whoever you was raised because it all starts at home.

It sounds like your lying to fit in. How can you love a blk woman but come behind that and say but some etc. Do you not have enough common sense to know that anything negative you say about blk women your wife/girlfriend has to deal with it also? It does not just apply to other blk women. If you ever see a blk women with masculine facial features it’s probably because 50% at the least she is doing the job of both her and the blk man which is affecting her looks. Be for real. Bascially you just said blk women look like men and in other words white girls look like girls. Whatever blk women you dated ought to be cautious with you, sounds like you are on the edge of getting a white girl. A black man wouldn’t respond like that either. Its funny because I see more white girls who look like men or a trans-g. You white you not blk, check this. BW do not produce more testoterone then other women. So did you learn that from the women in your family? Does it apply to them? No it’s not a can it be it’s a is BETTER looking then other women now if you haven’t seen that yet you might wanna check back whoever you was raised because it all starts at home.

Note: A white man does not speak that way about a white girl whether true or not which is something SOME blk males have to learn.

Tito78 wrote:

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Men from all racials backround, men from continent to continent say the same things. Black women don't want to face the truth, so they keep getting overlooked. I don't hear any non-black women complaining that thier male counterparts aren't attracted to them.

You know why they say that? Because of what the white male from the media portrays to the world. Now if you are blk and have blk women in your family and can't acknowledge the truth then something is wrong with you. You don't hear any non-black women complaining or speaking of it because the white media made false looks about the white girl so official that it has became something to believe by the world.

Open your mind, think and learn the truth.

Tito78 wrote:

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Same old excuses,the media is brain washing men, causing them not to be attracted to us. boo hoo

Who is us? If you were a blk women you wouldn't say that so hold off from trying to be blk and a women.

Another thing, It's not an excuse it's the truth and you are in denial because you have fallen victim to the white male. Poor television controls 99% of your brain lmao. Dummy. if you are a blk girl not a women but girl you must like to date outside of your race but then again you have a self hating issue and something wasn't right at home.

It all starts at home. If you can't truely appreciate being a blk women and the blk men not blk boys or oreo blk boys then guess what? You screwed.

JordanMonroe wrote:

a. Maybe it's the body of BW that makes them seem less feminine than other races of women. I mean I know being thick is the thing in the black community but we are not in Africa where you are judged as being wealthy by how much you weigh because your eating good.
b. BW attitudes are the worse. The way that BW talk to BM is ridiculous. Have you seen the Maury show? lol

So based on the pic you are a blk female right? Well what you are telling me is that you have the worse attitude then any other women of any other race? I mean you did say blk women have the worse attitudes and you are a blk female. Correct if wrong. White girls have attitudes and if you don't believe it visit tallahasse, fl and you will see. Some bb talk bad to bw and what guy deserves respect who does not treat a child the way they are suppose them. Another thing have you not seen the white girls on maury? Let's not block their actions out.

QueenofTheNile wrote:

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But thats crazy.How can a female look masculine because she's darkskinned.

Susan Boyle is their version of femininity. Seriously.

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