dark men have it better than dark women ?

illusioned wrote:

I really do think it's a gender thing, not to mention how in the past, a girl is consider lady-like if she was light-skinned because she stayed home so she wasn't dark. It's a retarded mentality, but it's prevalent everywhere, even in some parts of Africa--where everybody is dark already. In any case, it's a dumb mentality that needs to go, and it's showing some healthy signs with the introduction of dark-skinned models and how people are tanning and stuff. The ideal of beauty for women changes over time, so hopefully the tanning thing gets even darker :)
Good topic btw, it's something I've thought about for awhile.

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Zoemeister wrote:

It is a gender thing! It's like black men treat black women like the men in Iraq treat their women. Totally like crap! This is beginning to be a sex issue towards black women. I think black men are sexist. They always degrade black women.

Realtalkny wrote:

Who melts over dark skin dudes? Yall n-ccas stay lyin about that she1t. Just cause they get cast in movies as criminals don't mean she1t. Dark skin people and just black people period be takin pride in the dumbest she1t. These crackas don't like your dark skin n-cca

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Captn wrote:

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Let me guess who treats black women like queens ....

CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

it seems being a darkskin woman is a crime in the media,it's really not looked at as beautiful.however ,when it comes to men ,it's looked at as sexy ,exotic and etc.women of all races melt over a darkskin man.i've even notice this in the city.people im around always talk about darkskin girls aren't pretty or you can't find too many pretty ones .
then they right after saying that ,they'll say,"uhn! he fine and chocolate" ,or "i want me a chocolate man".so i was saying to myself, what the fxck? i notice that people discriminate against people of dark complexions at times, but it seems it's more so towards women ,not men.or at least ,dark women have it worser than dark men when it comes to sex appeal and beauty.why is this ?
chocolate flavor

CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

<quoted text>thanks ! great response,and your right it does seem to be changing.i think dark women aren't looked at as sexy or attractive, because in some many peoples eyes, dark ,and darkskin ,is looked at as manly ,masculine ,tough, rough, and strength.
that's also why lightskin men are at times overlooked like dark women ,because light is looked at as soft ,feminine ,weak,and fragile.they don't think it fits a man who in their eyes are suppose to be masculine.
chocolate flavor

Zoemeister wrote:

It is a gender thing! It's like black men treat black women like the men in Iraq treat their women. Totally like crap! This is beginning to be a sex issue towards black women. I think black men are sexist. They always degrade black women.

CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

<quoted text>try to stay on topic.

Shani wrote:

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Hey Chocolate Flavor,
Sometimes you have to look beyond the surface of issues in the world to find the real reason behind the way things are today. This is not directed just to you but to anyone who reads this post. Some things are not as obvious as it seems.
Ok. This is how I see it. Men are judged based on what type of woman they have. White men, who are the ones who run the world, power depends on that of white women. That is why white women are considered the "standard of beauty". Because of that, you have some "minority" women too busy trying to achieve that "standard". You have some "minority" men brainwashed into believing that and chasing after these women. Notice I said, "some". Therefore, if you are busy doing these things, how are you going to find the mental strength and time to focus on important issues that help build the black community, when you are already "brainwashed?" This is what help keeps the white man in power.
Now, dark skin black women are the most opposite of white women, and if the dark woman was to ever be considered the standard of beauty, then guess what? Other races would be busy trying to achieve that look and chasing her, which would put the black man in a position that would make it easier for him to be in power, thus weakening the white power structure.
This is why the dark black woman's looks is villified. It is threatening to the white power structure. Dark black women taking over the standard of beauty would set a new precedent, a new precedent that many fear, if not, there would be no need to villify and ridicule her looks, now would there? White power relies on black ignorance.
This may not make a lot of sense to some, but it makes sense to me.
White power structure = media.

birdmane87 wrote:

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Damn what ain't black men fault?

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CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

<quoted text>shani you seem to be a very inteliigent young black woman.i've been reading alot of your intellectual, and sometimes, philosophical post.however,i must say ,while your post are very deep and informative ,no offense ,but it seems you have a hard time answering the exact questions that are asked from thred to thred.what is your opinion on darkskin black men having it a little better than dark men? and why do you think this is in our society?

CHOCOLATE FLAVOR wrote:

<quoted text>birdmane, start speaking like the intelligent black man i know you can be and maybe they'll start respecting us.it's hard to respect someone who comes off unintelligent. AIN'T ?

birdmane87 wrote:

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Dude why do you continue to start with me,i am ten times more intelligent than you and i don't need to ridicule others who use the word AIN'T to prove it.
Besides I think black women would rather a man use the word "Ain't", than making sexist statements about putting their penis in them and all kinds of sick crap which you have done.
I'll use your own analogy on how to get black women to respect us but this time it will make more sense.
start respecting black women like the intelligent black man i know you can be and maybe they'll start respecting us.it's hard to respect someone who comes off as a rapist