Why Some Black Women Love White Men

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#1 May 14, 2007
Though most black women still love black men, I am finding more and more sisters like myself who have always been attracted to white men, finally getting up the nerves to explore their feelings.
I had always been told by family, friends and society that dating white men was wrong. Many black people call black women hoes, black men haters and sell-outs for doing so. I feel this is very wrong especially since the black community seems to give black men a free pass to date/marry any race of women they want.

I have nothing against black men and love them also but only as friends and family. Now what I love about white men (I am speaking only in generalizations and not about every white man, they seem to be more driven to succeed in all areas of life, they are more motivated about getting their educations and working at their jobs, they have their own things(homes,apt, cars, money)and don't look to women to help them. White men are polite and generous on dates. They don't carry around a lot of emotional baggage and they have confidence in their abilties. The white men that I have dated have also been very passionate in bed. Physically, I find light skin on men very appealing, I love looking up into a pair of masculine blue or green eyes and running my fingers through his thick straight, curly or wavy mane of hair.

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#2 May 14, 2007
good for you and i wish you the best but no thanks.

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#3 May 14, 2007
Sweetpride wrote:
Though most black women still love black men, I am finding more and more sisters like myself who have always been attracted to white men, finally getting up the nerves to explore their feelings.
I had always been told by family, friends and society that dating white men was wrong. Many black people call black women hoes, black men haters and sell-outs for doing so. I feel this is very wrong especially since the black community seems to give black men a free pass to date/marry any race of women they want.
I have nothing against black men and love them also but only as friends and family. Now what I love about white men (I am speaking only in generalizations and not about every white man, they seem to be more driven to succeed in all areas of life, they are more motivated about getting their educations and working at their jobs, they have their own things(homes,apt, cars, money)and don't look to women to help them. White men are polite and generous on dates. They don't carry around a lot of emotional baggage and they have confidence in their abilties. The white men that I have dated have also been very passionate in bed. Physically, I find light skin on men very appealing, I love looking up into a pair of masculine blue or green eyes and running my fingers through his thick straight, curly or wavy mane of hair.
for a man who prefers white women (i don't, because i don't use race to choose a woman), he can say the EXACT or SIMILAR things about white women:

1)they find lighter skin more appealing;
2)they find white women to be more driven, yet feminine, not always argueing, etc;
3)white women don't have as many out of wedlock rug rats;
4)white women are fitter than black women;
5)white women don't have the anger and jealousy that black women have;
6)white women tend to be fewer on public aid, and have their own homes, cars, careers, etc.

and, hell, if you think black men DONT have these things, then YOU should REALLY be into ASIAN men:

1) way more get college degrees than white men and anybody else (50%);

2) asian men on average have better credit than white men;

3) asian men are rumored to be polite and respectful, much more so than other men;

4) asian men, as all asian people, tend to place family FIRST

5) asian men, on average, are 'lighter' than black women, so the 'lighter skin' thing, especially with east asians, should be a draw to you.

yet, you prefer WHITE MEN. you OBJECTIFY white men. that's your business. but lets not try to justify your 'attraction' to white men. just prefer them, and be done with it.

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#4 May 14, 2007
To each their own luv

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Bmore

#5 May 14, 2007
gillette19 wrote:
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for a man who prefers white women (i don't, because i don't use race to choose a woman), he can say the EXACT or SIMILAR things about white women:
1)they find lighter skin more appealing;
2)they find white women to be more driven, yet feminine, not always argueing, etc;
3)white women don't have as many out of wedlock rug rats;
4)white women are fitter than black women;
5)white women don't have the anger and jealousy that black women have;
6)white women tend to be fewer on public aid, and have their own homes, cars, careers, etc.
and, hell, if you think black men DONT have these things, then YOU should REALLY be into ASIAN men:
1) way more get college degrees than white men and anybody else (50%);
2) asian men on average have better credit than white men;
3) asian men are rumored to be polite and respectful, much more so than other men;
4) asian men, as all asian people, tend to place family FIRST
5) asian men, on average, are 'lighter' than black women, so the 'lighter skin' thing, especially with east asians, should be a draw to you.
yet, you prefer WHITE MEN. you OBJECTIFY white men. that's your business. but lets not try to justify your 'attraction' to white men. just prefer them, and be done with it.
It's funny. where are all these strong black women who hammer men who express a preference for white women now. apparently there's a double standard on Topix
gillette19

Washington, DC

#6 May 14, 2007
Kennyinbmore wrote:
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It's funny. where are all these strong black women who hammer men who express a preference for white women now. apparently there's a double standard on Topix
and THATS what i've been saying all along, kenny. you and i agree more than disagree, that's for sure.

somehow, its okay for black women to love white men (and its ALMOST ALWAYS white men; rarely asian men. hmmmmm?), AND;

for white men to express a love of black women, BUT;

when a black man says he prefers white, or a white woman says she prefers black, THEN its wrong.

folks can't have it both ways.

i'm of the 'i could give less than a damn who you're dating unless you're MY woman' school of thought.
blkbaltimore

Baltimore, MD

#7 May 14, 2007
Sweetpride wrote:
Though most black women still love black men, I am finding more and more sisters like myself who have always been attracted to white men, finally getting up the nerves to explore their feelings.
I had always been told by family, friends and society that dating white men was wrong. Many black people call black women hoes, black men haters and sell-outs for doing so. I feel this is very wrong especially since the black community seems to give black men a free pass to date/marry any race of women they want.
I have nothing against black men and love them also but only as friends and family. Now what I love about white men (I am speaking only in generalizations and not about every white man, they seem to be more driven to succeed in all areas of life, they are more motivated about getting their educations and working at their jobs, they have their own things(homes,apt, cars, money)and don't look to women to help them. White men are polite and generous on dates. They don't carry around a lot of emotional baggage and they have confidence in their abilties. The white men that I have dated have also been very passionate in bed. Physically, I find light skin on men very appealing, I love looking up into a pair of masculine blue or green eyes and running my fingers through his thick straight, curly or wavy mane of hair.
u go girl!

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blkbaltimore

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#8 May 14, 2007
i am so not offended.....I just can't relate. You seem passionate about your choice.
blkbaltimore

Baltimore, MD

#9 May 14, 2007
kenny and gilette.. this sister is a minority..........I dont even know what is cute about a white man.

Sure.....I find many of them appealing.....a few could even get it if the right opportunity presented itself...but I def dont see features in them that I'd want for my children. This sista says she likes light skin men....I love me some chocolate...until white men start looking chocolate....ill prolly continue to pass.

Nothing against...white men...I prefer, love, adore and go hard for black men

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#10 May 14, 2007
gillette19 wrote:
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and THATS what i've been saying all along, kenny. you and i agree more than disagree, that's for sure.
somehow, its okay for black women to love white men (and its ALMOST ALWAYS white men; rarely asian men. hmmmmm?), AND;
for white men to express a love of black women, BUT;
when a black man says he prefers white, or a white woman says she prefers black, THEN its wrong.
folks can't have it both ways.
i'm of the 'i could give less than a damn who you're dating unless you're MY woman' school of thought.
I totally agree. Like you, I don't pick women based on color. Yet I get hammered by certain women here and told I need a makeover because I don't seem to attract black women where I live. I truthfully could care less whether black women or white women find me attractive. I deal with women who like what I have to offer, black, white , green , yellow, or orange
gillette19

Washington, DC

#11 May 14, 2007
blkbaltimore wrote:
kenny and gilette.. this sister is a minority..........I dont even know what is cute about a white man.
Sure.....I find many of them appealing.....a few could even get it if the right opportunity presented itself...but I def dont see features in them that I'd want for my children. This sista says she likes light skin men....I love me some chocolate...until white men start looking chocolate....ill prolly continue to pass.
Nothing against...white men...I prefer, love, adore and go hard for black men
frankly, she ALMOST sounds like a cyber troll who starts trouble...its almost like she CAN'T be real...nobody who can type and navigate the internet can be THAT stupid.

she's either a sister trying to start trouble, OR, a brother trying to make sisters look bad.
gillette19

Washington, DC

#12 May 14, 2007
Kennyinbmore wrote:
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I totally agree. Like you, I don't pick women based on color. Yet I get hammered by certain women here and told I need a makeover because I don't seem to attract black women where I live. I truthfully could care less whether black women or white women find me attractive. I deal with women who like what I have to offer, black, white , green , yellow, or orange
lol...in chicago, a city of 3 million people, metroppolitan area of 9 million, it was hard for ME to find a suitable sister after i broke up with the ex YEARS ago.

when i dated her (a black woman, and FINE as hell) there seemed to be plenty of single sisters out there who were fit, no children, pretty, educated, and had nice careers.

the SECOND she and i broke up, those sisters SEEMED to disappear. i still saw plenty of FINE sisters, but they were married or engaged.

the few i dated during that time were pretty, fit, childles, but mentally vacant or morally comprised (one told me that at the time, i didnt make enough money for her...LOL...then, when i broke up with her, she spent the next 1.5 years trying to make back up with me...AS IF).

THIS is what i had to choose from. thankfully, i met a BEAUTIFUL woman at a party one of my friends was throwing...this beautiful woman became my fiance. she just happened to be chinese.

color means squat to me...what she is, as an all around person, is what matters.

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#13 May 14, 2007
yellowbone wrote:
good for you and i wish you the best but no thanks.
Thanks. May I ask why you feel you shouldn't only restrict your dating to black men?

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#14 May 14, 2007
yellowbone wrote:
good for you and i wish you the best but no thanks.
Sorry that is " should, not shouldn't"

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#15 May 14, 2007
gillette19 wrote:
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for a man who prefers white women (i don't, because i don't use race to choose a woman), he can say the EXACT or SIMILAR things about white women:
1)they find lighter skin more appealing;
2)they find white women to be more driven, yet feminine, not always argueing, etc;
3)white women don't have as many out of wedlock rug rats;
4)white women are fitter than black women;
5)white women don't have the anger and jealousy that black women have;
6)white women tend to be fewer on public aid, and have their own homes, cars, careers, etc.
and, hell, if you think black men DONT have these things, then YOU should REALLY be into ASIAN men:
1) way more get college degrees than white men and anybody else (50%);
2) asian men on average have better credit than white men;
3) asian men are rumored to be polite and respectful, much more so than other men;
4) asian men, as all asian people, tend to place family FIRST
5) asian men, on average, are 'lighter' than black women, so the 'lighter skin' thing, especially with east asians, should be a draw to you.
yet, you prefer WHITE MEN. you OBJECTIFY white men. that's your business. but lets not try to justify your 'attraction' to white men. just prefer them, and be done with it.
But what you are saying varies from being subjective to argument to totally untrue.
1. Whatever some black men find more appealing is their business not mine.
2. Black and white women are driven. They graduate a higher rate than their men and black women actually make more money than white women on average in the corporate world.
3. There are fit and unhealthy women in both races. Some black women are very thin and fit while some white women are grossly obese with slabs of fat hanging everywhere.
4. Jealous and anger over what??? Do black women have that white women don't. You need to make yourself more clearer.

2., 3. and 4. I don't care if Asian had credit out of the yang, yang be as polite as be because this topic isn't about them.

5. Are you bring Asian men into this? When I said lighter skin, I mean't on white men. I don't care if asian men are lighter than me or not.

6. Yet another false statement. If you check the government stats you will find that a much higher percentage of welfare cases are white, you need to stop believing the movies and media hype and read the actual facts.
Mack

United States

#16 May 14, 2007
Ha, the reason why SOME black women love white men is becaused they've been brainwashed into belivieving that white is right and that if it's black stay back. Any black woman dating a white guy is asking for another Duke Rape Scandal happening upon them. These white men have successfully manipulated black women into believing that he can be her savior that can spoil her with his money and that he can love them better than black men that are loser women hating thugs. The white man is the serpent out to decieve Eve again.

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#17 May 14, 2007
blkbaltimore wrote:
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u go girl!
Thanks Blkbaltimore!
gillette19

Washington, DC

#18 May 14, 2007
Sweetpride wrote:
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But what you are saying varies from being subjective to argument to totally untrue.
1. Whatever some black men find more appealing is their business not mine.
2. Black and white women are driven. They graduate a higher rate than their men and black women actually make more money than white women on average in the corporate world.
3. There are fit and unhealthy women in both races. Some black women are very thin and fit while some white women are grossly obese with slabs of fat hanging everywhere.
4. Jealous and anger over what??? Do black women have that white women don't. You need to make yourself more clearer.
2., 3. and 4. I don't care if Asian had credit out of the yang, yang be as polite as be because this topic isn't about them.
5. Are you bring Asian men into this? When I said lighter skin, I mean't on white men. I don't care if asian men are lighter than me or not.
6. Yet another false statement. If you check the government stats you will find that a much higher percentage of welfare cases are white, you need to stop believing the movies and media hype and read the actual facts.
nope, what YOU were saying was subjective; i merely said that a black man COULD say these things (not agreeing with him or you on the subjectivity tip).

1) black women make about $2,000 more than white women a year, but this is due to two things: a) black women spend less time on maternity leave than white women, and b) black women are more likely to work two or more jobs than white women. hour per hour, black women make less than white women.

2) black and white women DO graduate at higher rates than men (as all but asians follow this pattern) but white women STILL, looking at ALL JOB CATEGORIES, make about 70% of what white men make; and black women make $5000 less a year than black men. WHY? because the degrees women, particularly black women, get, are lower paying than the jobs men get, be they colleged degree seeking jobs or construction, logicstics, trades jobs.

bottom line...the degree in and of itself means little; its the AREA the degree is in that makes the difference.

3) SOME (i don't think all, not even most) black women ARE jealous of white women because white women are held in higher esteem than NON-white women in a WHITE society. that's a fact of life that won't be changing ANYTIME in our lifetimes. women in THIS society, minority women in particular, do FAR MORE to lessen THEIR ethnic look than white women do to look 'ethnic'.

the top three procedures of black and asian women, for instance, include nose jobs...as nose jobs don't give you MORE nose, but they TAKE AWAY, one could argue these women want to look whiter; with asian women, the double eye surgery to eliminate the 'asian eyes' look. its done to LOOK WHITER. here are the top three plastic surgeries for black asian and hispanic women, per http://www.yourplasticsurgeryguide.com/trends... :

african american women:
1. NOSE RESHAPING
2. breat reduction
3. LIPOSUCTION

asian women:
1. NOSE RESHAPING
2. EYELID SURGERY
3. breast augmentation

hispanic women:
1. NOSE RESHAPING
2. breast augmentation
3. LIPOSUCTION

those i've all capped show things that are NOT to look 'black'(black women tend to be fatter in the u.s., and have larger noses...white women TEND to be slimmer - though that's changing- and TEND to have smaller, thinner noses)...and the number one in all the minority women is NOSE RESHAPING.

THIS is why SOME black american women are indeed JEALOUS of white wome...white women, no matter how hard we try to deny it, are DEEMED BY WESTERN EUROPEAN SOCIETIES, to be the most beautiful.
gillette19

Washington, DC

#19 May 14, 2007
Mack wrote:
Ha, the reason why SOME black women love white men is becaused they've been brainwashed into belivieving that white is right and that if it's black stay back. Any black woman dating a white guy is asking for another Duke Rape Scandal happening upon them. These white men have successfully manipulated black women into believing that he can be her savior that can spoil her with his money and that he can love them better than black men that are loser women hating thugs. The white man is the serpent out to decieve Eve again.
so, are you saying that any black woman that wants to date a white guy is doing a 'duke rape scandal' case?

so that means any black woman that wants to date a white guy is a nutcase, crying rape at least once before, hoochie ho* that had sex with at least four guys that werent her boyfriend and NOT any of the accused men, out of wedlock child bearing, shaking her azz for a living woman?

somehow, i doubt that.

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#20 May 14, 2007
Kennyinbmore wrote:
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I totally agree. Like you, I don't pick women based on color. Yet I get hammered by certain women here and told I need a makeover because I don't seem to attract black women where I live. I truthfully could care less whether black women or white women find me attractive. I deal with women who like what I have to offer, black, white , green , yellow, or orange
I listed many other things that I like about white men in general but all you could see was skin color.

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