Neighbor Of Owasso Couple Accused Of Child Abuse Voices Concern

DHS says they make monthly visits to foster families, not adopted families.
Big lie.

I am glad these neighbors that were so concerned waited for their moment in the spot light to speak up.. Shameful...

KKZ wrote:

DHS says they make monthly visits to foster families, not adopted families.
Big lie.

True, It was documented in the death of Keenan Taylor that reports about visits were faked, just a few days before his death.

W. Moore
Chair, Media Relations Committee
Oklahoma Family Rights Coalition, Inc.
E-mail: wmoore@sq745.org

This situation is so fouled up I can't begin to think what to say. Wow, just wow.

just another reason adopted children should be the only children in a family. i speak from experience. my heart and sould go out to those children.

Give them the Max and get there kids away from them. Max sentence children are the case here charge to the Max. On this one adopt and neglect what a fool and how many others are victims are out there that have been neglected. How did they even Foster Parents and who approved them. They look like clowns and now they should pay the MAX of the law for there worthless action and doing it to the ones they should be protecting. Give them the Max to the fullest

Lynne wrote:

just another reason adopted children should be the only children in a family. i speak from experience. my heart and sould go out to those children.

What a load of crock! I have both "adopted" and "biological" kids. A TRUE parent loves both. It doesn't matter where they come from, they are your kids. These people don't deserve to have any of these kids.

Sad situation for all. I hope the adopted teens get the counciling and help and nurturing they need. If anything good can be taken away from this......mabye it's be more aware and involved with your neighbors. Learn who is living a few feet from you and quit being shut ins. What happened to the days of yore, when neighbors knew each other-good,bad, or otherwise?

Lynne, i feel sorry for you, in the way that you feel on adopted kids.:( I dont agree with your statement.

Kuddos to mom of five. I too am a mother to both a biological child and an adopted child. We are also a foster family, and let me tell you, we treat none of these children different in any way shape or form.
Our adopted child came to us as a newborn foster child, we loved her from the second she entered our lives, not knowing if we would have her for a short amount of time or forever. Thanks to God that it is forever.
Yes these children came to us in different ways, but God meant for these kiddos to be ours as does He have plans for the children who come to our home as foster children, some long-term, some short-term we just want to make a positive impact on them while we have them.

JustJ wrote:

I am glad these neighbors that were so concerned waited for their moment in the spot light to speak up.. Shameful...

no kidding. That irks me

I pray these children will find a loving, adoptive home and can learn to trust again.

As an adopted child, I was raised with the upmost respect and love. I wasn't an Angel by any means, I was a bad teenager like many but my parents loved me because I was their child.

It is no excuse how a child acts to be mean to them or abuse them, they all need love. Sometimes those that act the worst are not getting the attention they need and deserve.

Hug your kids, love them, take care of them, treat them all the same. Life is too short!

This is obviously a grose misstep for the arresting officer (who apparently has quight a reputation), nosey neighbor Debi, and now DHS. The community should come together and support the McMillians.

JustJ wrote:

I am glad these neighbors that were so concerned waited for their moment in the spot light to speak up.. Shameful...

Who do you think called the police in this situation...the one that went over the top for abuse? Those concerned neighbors you are so quick to judge. You are the shameful one!

ActiveCitizen wrote:

This is obviously a grose misstep for the arresting officer (who apparently has quight a reputation), nosey neighbor Debi, and now DHS. The community should come together and support the McMillians.

The community should come together to STOP CHILD ABUSE, not take up for the abusers. Furthermore, how do you know this officer's reputation and what does that have to do with him arriving on a call to help these children? As far as a nosey neighbor, they are good to have around, if it weren't for a nosey neighbor these kids may have had to tolerate more abuse from the abusers that you think we should support.

I think we should take up for these children. If they couldn't tolerate being parents, they surely didn't need to go out and adopt these children. The children didn't get to choose them!

There is always two sides to every story!
Don't jude until you have heard both sides of the story!!!

ActiveCitizen wrote:

This is obviously a grose misstep for the arresting officer (who apparently has quight a reputation), nosey neighbor Debi, and now DHS. The community should come together and support the McMillians.

You want people to support going off and leaving two troubled youths until at least 11 pm locked out of the house with no means of contact. Heaven forbid they should have forgone their Saturday night outing with their "real" kids to stay home and take care of business like a "real" parent would. These kids could tell they weren't cared for by this couple, so it's no wonder they had issues. The kids sense exactly how they felt. So why did they adopt them? Because you can still draw a state check for adopted children. We have several in our family and the state provides medical and financial support if needed the same as the absent parent would in a divorce. Check into it, I bet they were getting a check on these kids.

Reid wrote:

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You want people to support going off and leaving two troubled youths until at least 11 pm locked out of the house with no means of contact. Heaven forbid they should have forgone their Saturday night outing with their "real" kids to stay home and take care of business like a "real" parent would. These kids could tell they weren't cared for by this couple, so it's no wonder they had issues. The kids sense exactly how they felt. So why did they adopt them? Because you can still draw a state check for adopted children. We have several in our family and the state provides medical and financial support if needed the same as the absent parent would in a divorce. Check into it, I bet they were getting a check on these kids.

That is ridiculous that you think they adopted them just for a check!!
So are you saying that your family adopted so they could get a check? Hmmm..

Lynne wrote:

just another reason adopted children should be the only children in a family. i speak from experience. my heart and sould go out to those children.

Speaking from experience, I can say with pride and love that my adopted child has never been or never will be treated any different or loved any less than my natural born, it's been this way for the past 25 years. I can say with confidence that if asked to do so she would back that statement up wholeheartedly. Even typing the word adopted in regards to our relationship makes me feel ill....as if how she came to be ours makes one bit of difference.
The McMillian's were wrong in their punishment of their children, they placed them in harm's way and should have to answer for that.

fed up with the media wrote:

There is always two sides to every story!
Don't jude until you have heard both sides of the story!!!

What side...they were either locked out of their home for hours or they weren't. Obviously they were. It can't be justified by saying that they were being punished because that isn't a fit punishment except for maybe a dog and even the dog is reported to have had warmth, food and water provided for it.
These kid's my have issues, I'm not arguing that but I'm really tired of a few people trying to justify the action's taken against them. When you become a parent part of the job is making sacrifices and the McMillians didn't want to sacrifice their night out. If these kids couldn't be left at home without supervison then it was up to the parents to find that supervison or stay home.

fed up with the media wrote:

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That is ridiculous that you think they adopted them just for a check!!
So are you saying that your family adopted so they could get a check? Hmmm..

Who knows why this couple adopted these children. Perhaps they had good intentions at the time, but the road to h*ll is paved with good intentions. The parents obviously had no problem excluding these two teenagers from a family outing, so it does make one wonder why they wanted these kids in the first place. There are many reasons for adopting or fostering a child. Most want to provide a safe, loving home to a child in need. Some do it for the prestige and recognition and a few do it for monetary gain. It is difficult to say what is in someone's heart and mind, but when things like this come up, it does make people wonder what the original motive was.

They used the excuse that the teenagers had behavioral problems, would hurt themselves, had threatened them. Did they ever stop to think that the behavioral problems could have been worsened by the way they were being treated in their own home? Did these parents ever reach out to try to get these kids help. Children who purposely injure themselves are screaming for lots of professional help and attention. This is not a behavior issue, it is an emotional issue that these adults were ill equipped to handle. Putting them out in the cold, on the streets, was no way to deal with whatever behaviors or issues these kids had. Thankfully there was somebody looking out for these two kids and called the police. Call the neighbors nosy or meddlesome, but they rescued them from possible worse fate.